Week 2 Sammy Budzisz
I never really gave much thought to Rape until I came to the U in the Fall of 2010. I come from a small suburban town near Milwaukee, WI. I've been through some rough times throughout my life but was fortunate to never experience any form of sexual assault, or even know anyone who had. When I came to college, I began to hear more about it, but since it didn't apply to my life, I didn't have many strong opinions about it. I saw posters for the Aurora advocacy center and heard about it randomly on campus, but that was about it.
I knew when I decided to join Greek Life that there was a stereotype that people get drugged and raped at Fraternity parties, but I had never heard of this happening to anyone. It really wasn't something that affected me for majority of my life.
Then there was a string of events that fall that really opened my eyes to this issue. Interestingly, I had a VERY different opinion at first than I do now. In order to understand how I've come to view this topic, I'm going to start at the beginning and explain how I first felt about it because it is similar to how most people feel.
Here is what was written about the first incidence:
"Two University of Minnesota fraternity houses are now under the microscope after separate reports of booze-related sexual assaults on consecutive weekends, and drawing media attention for the wrong reasons as campus parties crank up ahead of homecoming.
Police have warned students to lay off excessive drinking, and to buddy-up when going out. And fraternity presidents have met to figure out ways to keep their houses safe.
In the latest incident, a 19-year-old female student told police she woke up with injuries on Sunday after being raped at Chi Psi Fraternity this past weekend. She got herself to the hospital, but she can't remember any details about what happened to her.
The previous weekend, a man trapped a 20-year-old woman in a bathroom at Delta Kappa Epsilon Fraternity, just a few doors down University Avenue from Chi Psi, and almost raped her. Two frat members were beaten and robbed inside the house the same weekend.
Marty Chorzempa, president of the Interfraternity Council, said its members take the incidents seriously. And after last Monday's meeting with fraternity presidents, he thought members were going to work harder on security and safety at parties.
"Apparently more needs to be done," he told KSTP. There have been no arrests in either assault. "
I was a Sweetheart for Delta Kappa Epsilon, and I was there the night this happened. What was reported was ABSOLUTELY NOTHING like what actually happened. There was 2 people who were jumped, but they were not Greek and didn't even go to the U. There was a girl who was going to the bathroom in the a bathroom that was connected to the room I was in all night. She didn't lock the door and someone who also wasn't Greek and didn't go to the U came in and made some suggestive comments and then took her phone. She came out and was mad that her phone was stolen, so she told everyone she was going to file a police report. She did, and she came back to tell everyone the next day that the police kept twisting her words to try to make it seem like she was sexually assaulted. She kept explaining that it wasn't a sexual assault and she wanted to focus on finding her phone. Of course this got into the media as a "rape" and all of my best guy friends now had to walk around campus with the "rapist" title, even though they didn't deserve that.
I began to have an extremely pissed off attitude towards girls who contribute to making guys seem like rapists because they wanted something else to blame besides their excessive amounts of underage drinking that made them do slutty things. I really took up and anti-feminist view on rape because I sympathized with my friends who didn't do anything wrong but now had to deal with the effects of this label.