Unwritten rules are everywhere. Some people call them common sense. Others call them opinions. There are unwritten rules of the road, and not everyone agrees on them. The rules of the road I'm talking about are the rules I have learned from traveling and working. Traveling and working are like being a guest in someone's house and helping them with a home project, only on a billion dollar scale.
The guests (travelers) are the workers that come from other states to help with the project. The homeowners (locals) own the projects.
The rules for the travelers are the following:
-travelers do not accept foreman positions
-when all the projects are completed, and the travelers are no longer necessary,they should leave the area
-travelers help other travelers out with housing, food, and information, until they are employed
-a traveler with a job buys dinner for a traveler that is not working
-a traveler only accepts the hospitality of another traveler until they are on their feet financially (ASAP)
Where I grew up, these rules could be described in one sentence
Do unto others, as you would have them do unto you....also known as the golden rule.
I was thinking, what happens when a traveler breaks one of the unwritten rules?
There are many consequences for breaking the rules, all have a varying degrees of punishment.
examples:
-traveler's birthday gets taken away---OK, maybe that cna't happen
-verbal abuse from other travelers
-physical abuse to traveler and his/her property
-a bad reputation that follows a traveler everywhere they go
-a traveler can't find anyone to share expenses
-explicit descriptions of the offending travelers character illustrated and described on the job outhouses
-isolation, travelers no longer accept you as a part of their social group
-traveler receives no information about where the work is
The most severe consequence is not the obvious--physical abuse.
Instead the most severe consequence is being rejected from the traveler's social group.
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Posted by: yvfldjwsrw at August 5, 2007 4:47 PMWe should really abide by these unwritten rules if we want to succeed. This will help us also get along with the others better. But it doesn't mean that we have to pretend sometimes just to please them.
If there is something we want to achieve, we must overcome this fear of rejection and be true to ourselves. Fear of rejection only hinders us from succeeding. There are solutions to this fear without having to break these unwritten rules.
Posted by: Fear of Rejection at October 8, 2007 12:51 PMThese unwritten rules are mostly for building up good relationships with people especially within a specific area or group. These unwritten rules gives harmony to the people and everyone should respect that because if not, he/she would answer to the majority of the people.
Posted by: sedona method at June 2, 2008 2:46 PM