Parenting Styles in Divorce

In my opinion, no matter what is the style everyone is growing his children, they need both parents even if they are divorced. But sometimes moving from one to another parent's family could be very hard for the children and parents must be careful and have a good coordination! Children with divorced parents are really many, but they need a little additional attention!

Nice thoughts on parenting styles in divorce. Do you think that your mother's parenting style changed after the divorce? Or did she always have the same parenting style?

It's such an interesting thing to look at and pick apart because for every one of my friends that have divorced parents, the story is different. Some maintain a good relationship and still together have and make rules so the child doesn't become confused and in other cases they maintain a good or bad relationship, but agree to let each of them raise the child however they want, regardless of the differences from household to household. I feel like the mother's parenting style could've changed after the divorce almost as a way to make it up to the child for what happened, even though it is normal and shouldn't be looked at negatively. If i were a mother and that happened I'm sure i would feel that way a little. Divorce is something i will never know what the right way to deal with it is.

You have chosen to write an interesting topic. My parents are still together so I can't relate to the different parenting skills you are facing. However, I do know other people who are in your shoes and I can definitely see the differences in parenting. For one, I think it is more difficult to parent a child who is not biologically yours because you did not raise that child to begin with and don't know how that child is. Sometimes it can be difficult and results in punishment like how you had to go through. Secondly, I think everyone has their own beliefs on what is right or wrong to teach a child and what your mom probably taught you is not what your step mom agrees on. I think that's the main issue that makes parenting difficult among children. Not only are children unique but so are the parents. Then again, I can't really say much on this topic because I haven't been in those shoes.

I think this is a really important issue to look into. Even though my parents are still married, my aunt recently got a divorce, and it's been really interesting to observe how the parenting styles have changed. My aunt's parenting style was always pretty direct, Aleksandra (my cousin) knew the rules and she knew the consequences for breaking the rules, and Aleksandra was usually behaved really well. My cousin, understandably, took the divorce pretty hard, and started to act out (more sassy and demanding). The really surprising thing to see was that my aunt's parenting changed considerably. The rules that were once well enforced pretty much disappeared. I never realized that divorce might change a person's parenting style until my aunt got divorced.

For me, I personally think that parents shouldn't control their children too strictly because the more they try to control their children the more chance that children will get involved in bad activities in society. I've seen many of this parenting situation before. They have to be open minded and guide them into the right direction instead of reinforcing rules on them.