Everybody lies. Is it right or wrong? Or is it really matter?
It not about the lie itself, but what behind those lies are what people find fancy about. Since the beginning of time, everybody lies. Then, in order to be more successful in everyday personal life and social life, knowing things about lies becoming really important and useful.
It is impossible to catch a liar every time, but there are numerous methods to increase the chance of doing it. Based on the statistical data research, normal person make average about 3 lies in every 10 minutes talking. However, good news, according to our Lilienfeld-textbook: the signs of lying are universal, which means if we know those signs, then we can tell most of the lies other people make.
Then here comes the question: where do we suppose to pick up the cues of someone lying? Answer: social cues, since we talking and interacting with other people, we lie to them as well. There are usually 4 most obvious types of the cues we can look into: eye patterns, patterns of speech, body language, and emotional gesture.
People usually look up to their right while they are lying and do not willing to maintain eye contact.
Pattern of Speech:
A liar will use your words to make answer a question. A statement with a contraction is more likely to be truthful. Avoiding making direct statements. Words may be garbled and spoken softly, and syntax and grammar may be off. The use of distancing language.
Physical expression will be limited and stiff, with few arm and hand movements. Hand, arm and leg movement are toward their own body the liar takes up less space. Hands touching their face, throat & mouth. Touching or scratching the nose or behind their ear. Not likely to touch his chest/heart with an open hand.
A guilty person will gets defensive.
Everybody lies. We can't change that. However, knowing how to detect a lie and how to making a good lie can make life much better and easier.