Although I have learned many things in psychology and have strengthened my knowledge of certain aspects of the textbook, something that I will most likely stick with me over the years is the information from Chapter 11: Emotion and Motivation specifically focused on dating, attraction and love.
As college students, although academically focused, we all have the hopes of meeting our future partner/spouse in college. Perhaps it's the media that puts emphasis in such ideas, but it isn't an outrageous thought or belief to possess.
The three things that can "make or break" the formation of a relationship are: proximity, similarity and reciprocity (Lilienfeld, 443). Proximity is what is defined as physical nearness and the more that you see someone on a regular basis, the more you may get to know about a person and become familiar with them, which heightens attraction. Similarity refers to having things in common, which can be a very huge factor, not just in dating, but in friendships. It helps to have similarities in certain aspects (especially values that are most important to you). Although opposites may attract, "birds of a feather flock together" (Lilienfeld, 445). Reciprocity is one of the most crucial principles because, in order for a relationship to proceed, both people involved must have similar feelings towards each other and be willing to enact on those feelings mutually.
I find that these guiding principles are very important, but it is also a good thing to note that if we believe that someone may like us, we are more inclined to like them back (Lilienfeld, 445). However, good judgement must be used in order to determine if we truly care for the person with similar feelings, as this can lead to confusion and heartache.
I think that if we keep these guiding principles in mind and use good judgement and think through our actions and what we are wanting out of a relationship, it is possible to have strong relationships with others and ultimate happiness.