When I was growing up, I was not subjected or introduced to religion. I barely remember sunday school when I was little and my family stopped going to church after we moved to our current house when I was three years old. Although I was not given an education of the christian faith or any religion, I was aware that there was A God. I did not know who this god was, but I knew that everyone believed he was male. Rather than a sense of right and wrong according to scripture or god, I was taught good and bad according to ethics and virtue. Looking back at my upbringing, I greatly appreciate this education from my parents. I was what most of my peers declared a "goody good." Even though this was not quite the reputation one hoped for in middle school, I certainly lived up to it. I always worried about whether I could get in trouble or if anything was a good decision. I worked hard in school and earned good grades. In 7th grade, my neighbor and good friend, Lauren, invited me to a christian summer camp that would last a week in New Ulm, Minnesota. After careful consideration and my mother's advice, I decided to go. I will not forget my mother's words to me, however. She told me right before I left that no matter what anyone says or believes, that doesn't mean that I have to believe in it or agree. I will always love her for that advice. After attending an amazing week and a half with good friends and great music, I came home with a new outlook on life. Home did not seem like home anymore. To me, it was lonely and sad without the music and all the laughing and rejoicing for life. Not surprisingly, my easily influenced self had been very much converted by the friendly people of New Ulm. Looking back now, I see that the friends and music made that trip amazing, not god or any form of divine. I am a person who becomes completely transformed by music, body and soul. The uplifting sounds and energy were interpreted as divine rather than simply musically wonderful. After camp, I became a god-fearing girl who felt terrible constantly. I always felt like I was sinning by thinking or feeling a certain way. Through crawling into my shell, I "saved" myself from any sinful behavior or thought. I remained the same through my junior year in high school when I began to take AP classes and make new friends. I found that the more I learned about history, biology, and political science, it was harder and harder to believe as innocently as I had been. Thinking that christianity was a necessity, I kept believing and became much more angry. After graduation, I broke up with my christian boyfriend of three and a half years and prepared myself for college at the University of Minnesota. When I arrived, I found many people who were believers like me that lived on my floor in the dorms. They held prayer sessions in the room next door every Sunday night at eight o'clock and I attended but found prayer difficut because I was easily distracted. After a couple months, I re-examined my life as a christian. I found reading the bible tedious and difficult, I never remembered to pray at night, and the more educated I became, I believed less and less. One day, I stopped believing all together. With this new freedom, I began to learn more about myself and the way that I connect with the world. I remain braced with the virtues and ethics that I learned while growing up, but now I understand that christianity or any male god has no place in my life, especially one that makes me feel sinful for having sexual thoughts or even for telling a little white lie. I am no criminal nor am I a horrible person, but I will not live my life under a god that did nothing for me or guide me in any way. I feel too strongly about women's choices and marginalized groups like homosexuals to even flirt with another huge male entity who does not believe in what I believe in. I feel the only thing left is an Ani DiFranco quote that describes how I feel better than I ever could.
"first you'll roll your eyes to heaven
say you never had love so divine
but it will go from
more than ever
to not enough
in no time"
By the way, this is only my opinion and my experience. You need not agree with me.