UofM Feminist

Throughout history, views or opinions on love and lust change. For instance, were we to travel back to the time and age of Pride & Prejudice's England, love was triggered by beauty and encouraged by a 'proper' personality and behavior. And don't forget: an imperfect family was cause for dismissal or the ending of an engagement. Nowadays, it seems as if the family doesn't matter as much. Focus has turned from the community and family to the individual. When a person courts another, it is what that individual is, says, does that matters. I, for one, would be quite upset if a person I had been seeing dumped me because my family isn't perfect or because my friends aren't perfect. Although, I did date a monster once who tried to break up with me because of my friends. Of course, your friends are not you and vice versa. The monster did not seem to have (too many) problems with my character at the time, but was not impressed with my friends' behavior. One could argue that it is our friends that are our character, but I move to disagree. I believe that it is friends that bring out the best (or worst) in us and allow us to be ourselves, or more refreshingly, someone else for a change. Lust in modern times, is based on beauty or sex appeal, but love is said to be based on personality and personal preferences. Although we have come a long way from victorian England, society doesn't seem to have changed much. An individual is notices based on beauty or sex appeal and if their personality fits, they are 'meant to be.' However, what about the times where a someone's personality overrides their 'imperfect' beauty? I have been told before as well that my personality makes up for my lack of sex appeal or natural beauty. To those people: fuck you. Back to the original ponderance, I think that standards or normative love vs. lust haven't changed much. Thoughts?

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