October 18, 2005
The Big EQ
I have reflected on Dr. Daniel Goleman’s book and believe that Emotional Intelligence is for me… knowing my feelings, what makes me feel a certain way and why, knowing my behaviors and their fluctuations, then managing those feelings and behaviors, understanding others, and using all these abilities as a guide to a successful life and power of the outcome of that life. From becoming familiar with Dr. Goleman’s book I now do believe that Emotional Intelligence is a big predictor of the success that one will obtain. According to the book evidence suggest that it is “as powerful, and at times more powerful, than IQ,” This is why I believe it is so important, especially for me. In the future as I began working with children it is going to be very important that impart in them the significance of being able to relate to others and oneself. Though some of the things that Goleman or EQ declares can be understood as personality characteristics such as empathy, motivation, persistence, warmth and social skills, it is within our human nature ability to change ourselves and learn and grow into new individuals. Basically what I understand is that Emotional Intelligence causes people to have to change their views of what being smart is, it not only about the books.
Posted by at October 18, 2005 1:45 PM
Hi Priscilla - I agree, I too, get great strength from knowing that there is more than just a fixed IQ - there is EQ that will can continually improve and work to use our personal and social soft skills to make a difference. And, yes, EQ will be fundamentally important in your future work. I feel great knowing that you are heading into a profession where you will impart these concepts onto to children.
Learning social skills is really important as we grow as an individual. We deal with different people and social skills is an advantage for us which makes it easy to deal with those differences.
Learning social skills help us to understand other people as well. Understanding their feelings, opinions, attitudes, etc. is the way to know how we must deal with them.
To develop your social skills, you need to have great communication skills. It will help you develop good relationships with people. As you deal with people, it makes you more effective in socializing if you have great communication skills.
With your communication skills, you can be more observant, tactful, and respectful to other people. That way you can be more sociable to them and develop good relationship.
Emotional intelligence is really a big factor for success. Being positive and motivated helps a lot in achieving your goals and dreams.
The Sedona Method is a very effective way to becoming a positive and motivated person. It helps you gain emotional wellness and make you feel great all the time.