As a teenage girl, as I have entered the dating phase of my life, I have often heard the phrase "girls marry their fathers". For this blog entry, I would like to explore why this is the case. In the nature versus nurture debate of attraction, this phenomenon makes a lot of sense. The male with the most influence in a young girls life is her father. She watches him, and (when there is a good relationship among them) learns how a male is "supposed" to act. Emotionally, a woman will probably find that she fits better, and is more compatible with someone like her father. Obviously there will be differences in the little things, like food preferences or favorite football team, but things like if the husband respects his wife, and what his core values are (honesty, integrity, work ethic). As a child, a girl sees these things in her father, and, if she has a good relationship with him, finds them valuable.
Obviously there are cases where a woman marries a man that is nothing like her father. This can often times be explained because of a poor relationship between the girl and her dad. Arguments against this phenomenon state that this way of thinking is old fashioned, and in today's society, women have a better understanding of the impact that their fathers have on who they are, and their self esteem, so they are unlikely to blindly marry someone like their dad. I disagree with this argument, because I do not think that if an intelligent woman has a good relationship with her father, and chooses to marry someone with those attributes, she is doing so knowingly, but not blindly.