Brent's Blog: Emotional Competences

September 13, 2005

Emotional Competences

As far as Goleman's personal and social competences, I would rate myself somewhere in the middle. I feel that I am aware of my emotions, even though I may not have complete control in changing them. For the most part I can control my negative emotions, but when I get angry they still show through. I tend to get a little sarcastic and flustered. I do have problems with change, not necessarily within the place I work, but I fear changing jobs and new situations to an extent. I feel that I am self motivated and I am, as stated in the text "aligning with the goals of the group or organization." When it comes to empathy I am empathetic to a point, but when I am approached negatively I tend to lose that empathy and become defensive (by negatively I mean when someone is yelling or being rude, not when I am approached with feedback). Working in retail for all my working life thus far has helped me to be service oriented. I can be persuasive but could use more work and I feel that I work well with others as a team. I also can encourage people to do things, even though I'm not really in a position of authority (other than seniority) without being demanding to them, which might spark disatisfaction.

Posted by at September 13, 2005 9:10 PM

Comments

Hi Brent - No worries, most of the issues you mention (sarcasm, controling negative emotions, and adapting) are issues that we all face and will work on our whole lives. Knowing that sarcasm and negative emotions are a potential issue for you - I'd suggest the 24-hour "rule" for you. It's not really rule, but more of a guideline that suggests that you wait 24 hours before responding to something that really ticked you off. Those 24 hours give you time to reflect on the other person's perspective and give you time to cool down and face the issue objectively. If after 24 hours, you still have cooled constructed agruments regarding a person or situation, find an appropriate time to confront them and attempt to resolve the issue.

I was struck by the fact that you are able to "encourage people to do things, even though [you're] not really in a position of authority." Wow - that is an incredible strength. Why do you think you're able to motivate others in this way?

Posted by: Aimee at September 26, 2005 3:49 PM

Staying motivated would greatly help you in "aligning with the goals of the group or organization." Motivation is what keeps the person doing what he wants and must do in achieving his or an organization's goals. It also makes a person stay positive in life.

Influencing people to get motivated like you do would be a great way in achieving your goals as a team. Staying motivated would keep you focused on what you are doing and also to achieving your goal.

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Having good communication skills is a great help in business. It is important in the workplace itself and in promoting the business or communicating your service or product to the customer.

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Being self-motivated is great. It will help you feel positive all the time and better yet, it will help you to control your emotions.

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