Overall, I feel that Goleman's book can be a powerful and helpful tool. It is an excellent place to start with emotional intelligence. I found it helpful in making me more aware of my emotions. The five competencies I feel were pretty inclusive and complete. The one thing I would like to see though is how to use the information gained from this text to make improvements in your emotional intelligence. It is one thing to be aware of your emotions and their effects, but it is another thing to be able to fix that problem or control your emotions. Some exercises or even suggestions on how to control impulses and become more emotionally intelligent would be great. Other than that I think this was a great place to start, for me anyway, and it is a good tool to have.
Posted by at October 19, 2005 5:53 PMThank you for this excellent feedback. I think the 24-hour rule is the simpliest, most important advice that I can offer. When you feel you cheeks burning with anger, excuse yourself from the group situation and take a few minutes alone - even if you just take 10 minutes in a bathroom stall. It sounds silly, but those few moments can help you see things much diffently. The next challenge to you, as a potential pleaser, is to confront the situation and not just go with the flow. When you've had enough time to calm down and think through the different perspectives on the situation, address the problem. Use the strategies that I provided you in class (the handout is also available on Vista). Try not to share the experience with others with whom you are close because it could balloon into a "us versus them" situation, which doesn't help anyone or anything. I'll also look for more sceanrios on conflict management, and post anything I can find on Vista.
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