Person Number Three
Tonight I had the night off of work, so I called my friend Will to see what he was up to. He said that he was going to go out with Dallas, but he would call me back when he found out what their plans were going to be. This to me assumes that it is fine I go along with them, so I was expecting his call. However, the night did not play itself out how I would have hoped.
Will did not call me by the time the clock struck 9:00, I had talked to him at 6:30 so I thought I would give him a call to see where the plans were for tonight. I got his voice mail, and with Will that is never a good sign.
Because I have been “rejected” by Will before I decided to go out and have a drink before he would call me back. It is a good thing I did, because if I had waited at the apartment for him to call I would have waited all night.
On the way to Bonfire to drink with my fellow employees, I realized something. I had become person number three…the tag along. Person number three is the one who you originally had not made plans with, but they called you and you decided that it was ok that they tag along.
This realization caused me to reexamine all the relationships I had with my gay friends. What I found was that not only was I person number three with Will and Dallas, but I was person number three across the board.
Some of my friends are dating other people at the moment, and to me that is fine, I should expect to be person number three. Will and Dallas, however, are not dating each other… Why am I person number three?
In every relationship we have, every group of friends, is there always a person number three? Is there always one person in your group of friends who you originally had not planned to hang out with, but when they call you, you simply cannot say no to hanging out with them? Do people realize that this person number three may be waiting by the phone for them to call so they know where to meet?
What is wrong with me, what is wrong with every person number three? Do we not deserve to have friends that want to hang out with us? Did we do something wrong recently and there is some kind of karmic energy at work dooming us to be person number three?
I do not have the answers to these questions. Perhaps you do…please post any comments you may have. What I do know is that this is one person number three who has had enough and fully intends to keep the DVD’s person number one and two left at his apartment.