Ok, I know this one is super late, but I'm posting anyways.
I had some problems with this movie. My main issue with it has always been that it again plays into patriarchy by giving gay male culture a spotlight and leaving queer women in the cinematic closet more or less. I do believe it's important to give cinematic attention to queer male culture, but not at the expense of leaving other perspectives in the dark. This movie came out when I was in high school and didn't really know anything about indie films, so from my point of view pretty much every queer movie ever made (which isn't a lot) was about queer men. Aside from my past issue with the movie, after watching it, I felt that the two characters were both hyper-masculine, which sort of detracted from the portrayal of queerness because not all men (queer and otherwise) feel the need to fight and spit and brood constantly. On top of this, there's the fact that both men cheat on their wives, and break their hearts. I understand that given the time period of the story the two men really couldn't run off and co-habitate, but still, it plays into that negative assumption that queerness ruins families, and that really bothers me.