I can understand Halberstam's argument about the conservative writers of the film "The Kids are All Right" perpetuating trade in's of sex for comfort. Idid have some issues with the films portrayal of lesbian relationships, however, I can relate to the "mom's" relationship. I've experienced sexual desire fizzling out the further into a committed relationship one gets. Relationships, straight and queer, take work and it isn't all about sex and games after a certain point. I agree that the lack of "skin" shown while Jules and Nic were trying to be intimate is a reflection of conservative views, but in another sense, maybe the directors didn't show skin to convey the sort of "boring" that has settled into Jules and Nic's relationship. I agree that there is so many lesbian stereotypes and it would be nice to see a more masculine Nic in the film or a more Feminine Jules. Heck, I would go crazy if the couple were both genderqueer. I related to the movie a lot more than Halberstam seems to be allowing me too in the blog post. The Film could have been way better, but perhaps I am just projecting my life into the film as one interviewee of the Celluloid Closet said he does.