A Daily Dose

It is true that people always have plenty of choices in relationships; however I believe that the dating game does exist. For men, the goal of the dating game is to gain as much sexual contact as possible. This serves as a measure of success in their relationships. For women, the goal of the dating game is to gain as much commitment as possible. This serves a measure of success in their relationships. Now, you can argue that the game isn't always present, but in many cases it holds true unfortunately. I think that many relationships have a balance of the two measures of success, too much of one or the other doesn't make a healthy relationship or dating style.
Now, what to say to someone who argues the dating game doesn't exist. You might ask them how do men and women measure success in a relationship? What are the key elements that each value in a relationship? Also, how do men and women describe and judge a relationship when discussing it only with members of their sex. I think this is especially interesting. It seems that men really see the level of a relationship based on the amount of sexual contact and women based on the length or level of commitment in the relationship. Likewise, these are the same fundamentals that the dating game is based on. Finally, if the dating game doesn't exist, then are the measures of success in a relationship the same for men and women? And does the dating game change after certain relationships or experiences?

Choices abound, but roles are constricting. The dating game limits how far out of the box one can take a date. I believe that the dating game does exist.

I would ask my friend, "What do you feel that you should accomplish by the end of a date? Who is your ideal date and why? What behavior on a date would turn you off?"

Hopefully, they would see that if they have an answer for any of these questions, then they already have preconceived notions about dates and their roles in them.

I would say the dating game definitely exists, but does not pertain to all types of love styles. For example someone who is a "Ludus" type of lover a.k.a. a player or someone pragamtic has to know how to play the game in order to get what they want out of relationships. But people who have more of an "eros" love style are equally obsessed with eachother and, therefore, do not need to play any sort of games.

I think the dating game does exist and no matter who you are or what you may argue, everyone actively participates in the dating game. Just different people participate in different ways. Looking it at with the various love styles, a Ludus would participate in the dating game out of mere entertainment purposes, because they enjoy playing games. But on the other hand a Eros would participate to protect themselves from getting hurt. Individuals all participate in different ways, and our various personalities, up bringings, and other aspects of our life that we identify with all have an influence on what time of participation we assume in the dating game.

I believe that the dating game definitely exists. It is easy to think of the play-by-play for how a classic, or typical, date should work. There are certain roles that each person generally fulfills, and actions that each half of the couple automatically expect, even if subconsciously, which proves the existence of the dating game. I would ask this non-believer to describe what they think the classic date would be, and then I could probably explain how several of the points they mention exemplify dating game roles.

I would have to ask the person what they think guys and girls should do on dates and other typical questions that they think a girl expects or a boy expects when going on a date. Then if all of their answers lead to the fact there is a dating game, I would have to point that out to them and then see what they have to say.

I would say that a dating game exists, but that most people play it subconsciously. A question I would have to ask someone who believed there is no dating game whether they ever worried that something they did with a crush or a date was "right." People can't help but feel like they will be compared to others, and so they try to be as good as or better than others who their date has been with before.

The dating game exists, and is something that an individual will aways particpate in, even if they say they won't. No matter how hard a person tries, they can never escape the expectations that have been placed on them on how to act on a date or in a relationship. I agree with Erin in the fact that most people don't even realize they are playing the dating game, because it's something that has been hammered into our heads whether its through media, parents, past relationships, or friends. I think if you stepped outside of the "dating game" box on a first date, chances are you probably won't be talking to that person again.

The dating game, sadly, does exist.
But I'm not quite sure I like the term "game." Games are supposed to be fun, right? True, dating can be fun, but only if you know what you are doing. I prefer to think of it as the dating "test." That's basically what it is, isn't it? Every date you go on is a test. Like in school, if you know all the answers and understand the material completely, then you pass. In the dating scene, passing is getting a second date (or an invitation inside, whichever you consider passing...). A test is gauging the amount of knowledge you have, and the more questions you get wrong, the less likely you are to pass.
Let's look at a date and see what the various questions you might be asked. Question 1: Are you dressed properly so as not to convey the wrong message? Question 2: Do you have a proper attitude for the situation? Question 3: Did you offer to pay? And so on through the rest of the date. If you get a lot of questions wrong, then chances are you won't pass.
So from the very beginning we are testing each other, waiting for them to answer a question wrong. In this sense, the dating game/test does exist.
If my friend were to disagree, I would ask them to think of ten factors that they are looking for in a date, and every time their date does one correct, then check it off on the list at the end of the night. See if their date passed the test, and compare it to how they actually felt about the date. In the end, they should realize that they were doing it subconsciously all along.

I also would say that dating game exists and would also say that you cannot participate in a relationship without playing the game in one way or another. People want their dates to go well so they question their actions to see if they are "right" or what society tells us is right. For the most part, people dont want to make a bad impression and by participating in the dating game they unconsciously follow the rules that we have been taught for years to portray the perfect man or woman. I think i would also ask the person what they think are typical guy things to do and typical things that girls would do on dates.

I would have to say that the dating game does exist and each person plays in a different way. Some play the dating game because they don't want to get hurt, while others play the dating game for pleasure.

I would say that the dating game is a percieved notion about dates, and that everyone has certain things about a date that exemplifies something else. I would simply ask them if their a girl, "If the guy sits in his car and honks does that mean anything to you?" or to a guy "if the girl offers you to come in after a date does that man anything?"

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Of course the dating game exists. If there wasn't a dating game, we would instead be marketed by our parents to the most eligible bachelor available and arrangements would be made. Since we do not do that anymore, at least in the west, it comes upon ourselves to get into the marketing business, and that is the game. I would ask this person, "When you are on the prowl, don't you dress to the T rather than go out in your baggy sweats?" Right there you are playing a game, even if it is just in the smallest degree. You are putting on your best face, your best duds and hoping someone will judge you for who you appear to be at that time and not how you normally dress on a day to day basis. Once you are deep in a relationship, there is still a game being played. When you break up, you are still playing the game. I was so hurt after a break up I actually bought a book on How To get Your Ex Back just to try and manipulate him back into my arms. I know.....I am sad. It is all a game.

Of course the dating game exists. If there wasn't a dating game, we would instead be marketed by our parents to the most eligible bachelor available and arrangements would be made. Since we do not do that anymore, at least in the west, it comes upon ourselves to get into the marketing business, and that is the game. I would ask this person, "When you are on the prowl, don't you dress to the T rather than go out in your baggy sweats?" Right there you are playing a game, even if it is just in the smallest degree. You are putting on your best face, your best duds and hoping someone will judge you for who you appear to be at that time and not how you normally dress on a day to day basis. Once you are deep in a relationship, there is still a game being played. When you break up, you are still playing the game. I was so hurt after a break up I actually bought a book on How To get Your Ex Back just to try and manipulate him back into my arms. I know.....I am sad. It is all a game.

For me, dating game exists. People may have different intentions in getting themselves involved in the game. But surely, they could start a serious relationship through this.

One thing though, they must communicate openly in which everything must be clear to both parties - of what kind of relationship they want or expect from each other. Through good communication skills, a relationship can be strengthened.

Sure the dating game exits. If it was in the old ages, you would probably get married and then date in your marriage lol but here's an interesting statistic, normal couples have an average love span of 5 yrs of being in love and they get bored. How to keep the fires burning, by having a baby of course. Something new in their lives yes.

That is only a statistic that i read somewhere, as to it's authenticity, it remains unknown to me.

Of course "dating game" exists like many other interesting & engaging games in our life... And life itself ;)

But sometimes we get tired of it, and want to "settle down" a little bit. This is the time when we look back, reflect and seek for the support and sympathy of our beloved ones... And want to get them back if we're in the middle of separation.

At this point it becomes very natural for you to try and figure out hot to get your ex back...

Thanks and Best Regards,
Max Corvies.

I wonder how worth while that book really is...