A Daily Dose

1. Be as vulnerable as you want. Chances are you'll be cheated on anyways.

2. Friendships stay strong because of a lack of sexual aggression but plenty of sexual desire (even if one sided). Pick one - friendship or relationship. Remember, though, after your relationship is gone, so is your friendship, at least for awhile.

3. There are plenty of sex stores or classes that can lighten any sticky sexual situation. I suggest checking those out before taking the problem any further.

1. In any new situation, it is always best to open up and just be yourself. It is important to let the other person see the true you and that way they know who you are, instead of getting the wrong impression. If they don't have the same interest in you, then it is ok because you opened up and let them see who you are. You can be pretty vulnerable in most of these situations. However, since you don't know this person very well you don't want to be completely exposed and tell them every detail of your whole life otherwise your risk getting hurt more. Besides you are still trying to get to know who this person really is too.

2. Since you have a background with your friend you are almost certain you can trust them in any situation. You both know each other and what each other is like. This really helps and eliminates the period of making sure you can trust the other person. You should just be upfront with your friend and see where things take you. However, if things don't work out romantically, you risk losing a good friend. Sometimes it is hard to regain a friendship after a relationship with them. So, you can still be very open with them, but make sure that you take careful steps.

3. In this case, I think the problem is that the relationship lacks intimacy and closeness. Both partners should open up and reestablish their connection. I don't think that they are being vulnerable enough. In a relationship both people must be completely vulnerable and open to each other. This is what makes a relationship so special. So, in order for them to have more physical sexual intimacy they should be more vulnerable to each other. This is one case were both partners should be safe because they trust one another. However, both people must open up equally in order for it to work.

1. There are no rules for how vulnerable a person should act in a particular situation. How vulnerable you are depends on your intentions. If all you want to do is "hook up" then you will show extreme vulnerability toward sex. If you are looking for a relationship, then be yourself. You put yourself in a vulnerable situation as soon as you start to open up and reveal who you are. The other person may or may not like who you are, but if you don't make yourself a little bit vulnerable you may never meet anyone.
2. If you have romantic feelings toward a friend, then I would make certain your friend has started to have those same feelings for you. If you get the right vibe then tell them how you feel. If you don't think they reciprocate your romantic feelings, then it's probably best to keep the friendship and not reveal your feelings. Things could get really awkward.
3. Passion fluctuates in relationships. Everything is new and exciting in the beginning of a relationship. If you think there is a lack of passion, then there are probably practical reasons for that. People get tired and stressed out in life. The best thing to do is to talk to your partner about it. If you have a relationship with good communication you should have no problem talking about this. It's better to do that then to keep it inside and maybe start overanalyzing or harboring thoughts that they just aren't attracted to you or there's something wrong with you.

I dont think that being vulnerable is different in different situations...if you are someone that is open with sharing yourself and your feelings than you will in any situation and if you are not than you wont. There are so many different types of people out there and you cannot give advice to just anyone about any of these situations because you need to know the person personally and what they would be comfortable with doing. I am an open person and I don't think that you should keep many things from people because then you arent being real with them-but I may give different advice depending on the person-not the situation.

I believe that there are different ways to proceed the different situations however I believe that vulnerability depends on the person not the situation. I think that each relationship might make us a little more or a little less vulnerable but for the most part the amount of disclosure you allow doesn't change a whole lot. Some people disclose a lot of information and personal stuff in all types of relationships and others share a lot less. I really believe that disclosure and vulnerability depends on the person and their experiences.

1. In this situation, you have to throw caution to the wind, step outside of your comfort zone, and just talk to them. Make your feelings and intentions known though physicality and attention. This may make you more vulnerable than you are used to, but trying something new like this could give you the answer you've been looking for. The definite drawback is open rejection that could make you even more scared than before, but life is not without risk.
2. In this situation, I believe it calls for total vulnerability: tell the person how you feel. I know from experience that it can work. Yes, if you tell them and they don't feel the same way your friendship could take an awkward turn after that, but you can't live with something like that on your mind. It would eat away at you every time you see the person. So just say what you want to, and let the other person take it from there.
3. If there was passion in the past, then there is no reason you can't have it back (unless large problems have occured since then). If the passion is gone just because it has become routime, surprise them! Give them a weekend away, or leave them small notes that will give them a little excitement. The best way to battle routine is spontenaity. This doesn't require a lot of vulnerablilty. However, if they still do not respond to that, then a serious conversation is needed. I believe that vulnerability is a key part of intimacy, and in any sexual relationship. So sometimes a long talk is warrented.

1) In this situation I don’t think you should let your troubles with hooking up be the down fault of why you don’t get to know someone if you are interested. I think every one has their ways of keeping it safe by having somewhat of a guard up when trying to get to know someone, and I think you should definitely take it slow and if you are not quite sure what direction you and that person are going. It might get too difficult if you become too vulnerable, not only for you by running the risk of getting hurt but also for the other person who might not be ready to get that close. So be open, have no expectations, and do what you feel comfortable. BUT don’t think too much or over analysis the situation!
2) Having a friendship before becoming intimate or romantic can be a good and bad thing. It could be a good thing in the sense that you know each other and you already have somewhat of a foundation with that person. On the other hand it can get complicated. With every friendship that turns into more than friends, runs the risk of ruing the friendship. With that said, I think you should definitely talk to each other and be realistic with how far things can go with you two before getting too caught up emotionally. If this is a friendship that you can be confident enough to trust that other person with your feelings and being vulnerable then I’d say go with your heart. But if the other person isn’t on the same page, be careful what you expose and how far your willing to go.
3) I think with any relationship that has lasted long enough to the point where you are not passionate enough, then I think you should be able to talk and find new ways of staying passionate about each other. However if it is not that serious and the relationship was not based on passion for each other to begin with, I would be careful how vulnerable to become. Becoming too caught up in finding new ways, or worrying about not being passionate enough can most definitely bring down the mood of the relationship. So I wouldn’t let it get the best of you.

I believe that the level of vulnerability you allow yourself to have depends entirely on the situation at hand. Before you become completely vulnerable you have to build up a certain level of trust with the other person in the relationship.
1) With this situation I believe its best to just be yourself and share things you feel comfortable sharing. You don’t want to disclose so much about yourself that you intimidate the other person. You also want to make sure you are really showing your true self. If you’re not acting like yourself around someone than you obviously aren’t fully comfortable with that person. I also think that as soon as you open up and really start to disclose information about yourself, you are letting yourself become even just a little bit vulnerable.
2) Oh the friend situation…Unfortunately I have recently arrived at this point. I have developed more than friendship feelings for someone I have considered my best friend for a few years now. And I’m really torn as to what I should do. I’ve pretty much decided to not do anything about how I’m feeling…besides dropping subtle hints every now and then. Unfortunately, I’m worried about our friendship changing if I say anything. I am already vulnerable to being hurt in this situation because of how I have let my feelings develop for this person, so I think it’s a good idea to not let myself become anymore vulnerable by actually letting him know how I feel. I think if I get the right vibe eventually from him, then maybe I’ll let him know. Until then, this relationship will remain a very strong friendship. In response to Jenn’s comment though, your feelings pretty much drive you crazy every time you’re around that person. So maybe it is a good idea to just take the risk…
3) It seems as though this is a common problem for many people. Passion levels usually tend to be high at the beginning of a relationship and then things become routine and sometimes bore people. That’s when you need to step back and reestablish your connection with the other person and maybe change up the routine a little and do something different for a change. Change is usually good and it could reignite that passion.

With all the three situations, what we must avoid is the fear of rejection. We will just lose our opportunity if we are overpowered with this fear.

Fear of rejection must be overcome first so that we'd be able to do our plans for the three situations. We must be prepared to take the risk and continue life as it is if we fail with our plans.

The topic seems interesting. I'd like to answer the first one. . .

I think I just have to be confident enough to proceed and take time in knowing each other before getting vulnerable.

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I think I just have to be confident enough to proceed and take time in knowing each other before getting vulnerable.

I think I am the same.