Condition of Worth

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Although I found many interesting things that I could discuss this week, nothing stuck out to me like Carl Roger's condition of worth which is the expectations we place on ourselves for appropriate and inappropriate behavior. I agree with Rogers that we all have certain conditions of worth that we all hold within ourselves away from others. I believe that these internalities can strongly shape our personality in many ways such as how we decide to hide them and what we would do to keep some of them hidden. In this short YouTube video, (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=szi0fJxpwOI) it shows many different individuals with what they struggle with most written somewhere on their body. Another reason why I find this concept so interesting is that as outsiders, we usually never know what people struggle with. The people in this video are average people and yet some of them are dealing with extraordinary things that most of us will never know about. There's a saying that goes, "You should be nice to everyone because you don't know what they go home to." Well frankly, sometimes it's more important what they are struggling with no matter where they are; self-worth follows them everywhere. We all have struggled with the question 'who am i?' and the person who we usually come up is less than our genuine selves. For me, this was a difficult question in middle school. This was the time where I wanted to be with the 'popular' kids and I really struggled with who I was. In order to be worth their time, I would try to be them and forget who I was before. Fortunately for me, it didn't take me long to see that I was worth something, even if I wasn't worthy to them. Because of this, I strongly believe that condition of worth plays a key role in our personality and our mental health and is a major concept of interest.