Feminism is strong, independent, and bold. It’s standing up for what you believe in even if it means you are standing alone. It’s that single mom working 3 jobs to support her kids and give them the opportunities that she never had. It’s the female basketball coach that stays up late watching tapes of other teams, and creating new plays. It’s the professional businesswoman that gets paid a portion of the men’s salaries, but still wakes up every morning ready to tackle a new project. It’s any woman that’s ever been called a bitch, slut, or dyke and resented it. It’s any female that’s ever been looked down on because of the clothes she was wearing, when any man could have put in less effort towards his outfit and be fine. It’s any woman that is late for every appointment when she spent that time on her looks. Because she doesn’t have the confidence to leave her house without make up because she thinks she’s not ‘pretty enough.’ It’s any woman that spends $180 on highlights and a cut, hoping that when she goes out to the bars the guys she meets notices her hair first and not her eyes. Her eyes filled with exhaust from trying so hard with no results. It’s the chemist that puts in 80+ hours a week, spending overtime leaning over test tubes and microscopes because she’s just not comfortable with the bar scene. Feminism is that crazy cat lady who doesn’t give a damn about men or relationships and can have a great afternoon knitting and watching Oprah with her cats, being completely content. Feminism is when you cried out loud when the gay marriage ban passed in Wisconsin. Because decades ago you fought for your rights, too.
Feminism is the little girl who cries on the edge of the sandbox because she wants to play with the trucks and the boys. It’s the little girl who dresses up in white and dreams of her wedding and the Prince Charming she hopes will be there. It’s the teenager that stays home from her prom because she doesn’t have a date, and it’s the court member that wonders how she got on because of the things she had said about others. It’s the college freshman struggling alone in a big city, and the one that realized she is fine with a long-distance relationship because she didn’t love him as much as she thought she did. It’s the woman in her mid-thirties petrified because menopause started early for her, and it’s the lady in her fifties that realized unplanned pregnancies and painful periods were good trade-offs for a decreased sex drive. Feminism is the woman in her 70’s that picks her head up and moves forward when her best friend of 50 years dies. It’s the 90 year-old ladies that realize all the men their age are dead and wishing that they had used better skin care so they could attempt to hit on the ‘hot young 70 year-olds.’ It’s the women that get called gay because they are introverts and don’t like playing the desperate card. It’s the one’s that get called it and laugh, because they’re pretty sure everyone else already knew.
Feminism is every mother, daughter, sister, friend, aunt, niece, and idol. It’s in all of us all the time. Not always as prevalent as it should be, nor as hidden as it could be. But it’s there in all shapes and sizes, just like the packages that embody it.