I thought that this article had some interesting findings. At first, I didn't think it seemed accurate, but after thinking about it, it made sense. When you're too dependent on someone else, you're not as focused on what you want to accomplish. In addition, if you think that your partner is going to help you, then you're more likely to do less work and count on them to get you into gear. If they don't get you motivated, you won't do it. Today I got to spend time with my brother's girlfriend, Nikki. She's 35, divorced, and has two kids. My brother wasn't around, so it was just Nikki, her kids, and me. We started talking about school, life, and relationships. She told me about how her exhusband had an affair while she was pregnant with her youngest son. She gave me some advice, "Don't get married until you're 30." Nikki said that she got married and hadn't gotten her masters degree yet, which was always one of her goals. She said that you think that once you get married you'll stick with your goals and keep going to school, but in all acuality, you don't. You get too involved with that one person, and if they aren't pushing you to do it, it doesn't happen. She assured me that if you're in love, that one guy can wait, and you should leave your 20s to exploring and schooling. I've always thought I wanted to get married young, but after hearing this it made sense to me. Now, will if I find that person and want to get married, will i say, "Yes, but I have to wait until I'm 30"? Probably not, but it's a good thing to consider. Nikki enforces her rule of not marrying until you're 30 to her kids who are only three and five. She's somewhat joking, but what she's saying has logic to it. Maybe if some people waited a little longer before they got married and accomplished some of the goals they had before getting married, then they would have more successful marriages. In the words of Nikki, "Don't get married until you're 30."
Don't Get Married Until You're 30
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