Saying 'yes' to more than JUST a dress...

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Take a minute to stop and think for once in your life. Put down your pen, your textbooks and highlighter. Are you currently in a relationship? Have you been in a relationship in the past? What characteristics do you look for when selecting someone to date? What characteristics serve as "turn offs?" Maybe you're not in a relationship right now because you know exactly what you're looking for, but just haven't been able to find 'that person' yet. What would that person be like? Would they share the same interests as you? Maybe they're quite your opposite. Specifically think about what it is that makes you happy in life when interacting with others in the world.
Psychologists have spent much time researching what makes individuals happy. They have shown us that many commonly believed myths are not correlated to happiness; money "can't buy long-term happiness," although it is "a bit related happiness." Psychology research also disproves the myth of happiness declining with old age. Not only does research show us what does not relate to our levels of happiness, but it has also found a few variables which are shown to be correlated to happiness:
1. Marriage
2. Friendships
3. College
4. Religion
5. Political Affiliation
6. Exercise
7. Gratitude
8. Flow

Watch the following video and see if you can pick up on any of the above mentioned eight variables.
"http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e8jTH61aoXI&feature=relmfu"

First impressions? The bride-to-be in this clip is clearly happy. She is about to be married (first variable) and surrounds herself with her many friends (second variable) when selecting her dress. She doesn't spend much time elaborating on exactly why she has decided to marry Chad Gaudin, a Yankee pitcher. Perhaps one of the major reasons is due to Chad's personal level of happiness. Being a professional baseball player, Chad obviously spends quite a bit of his time exercising; according to psychology, people who "exercise regularly tend to be happier and less depressed than people who don't."
Although this bride does not mention it in her interview, many brides on the hit TV series Say Yes to The Dress often speak of how they are about to marry their best friend. They elaborate on memories which their significant other in which the two display a close friendship, expressing a great deal of gratitude (variable seven). Another important variable is often key to a happy relationship: similar religious upbringing (variable four). Many brides-to-be mention falling in love with not only the person, but also the person's beliefs and morals.
So ladies, when it comes time to having to either pass or 'say yes to the dress,' remember this: you not only say yes to the dress, but also to the individual you will marry and your prospective level of happiness in your future years.

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Great design to this blog as it really does make someone think about every single aspect of marriage. I think the study of happiness would be one of the harder ones as happiness can be altered so much between different individuals. In the list of some of the highest correlated values of happiness, what if someone was a very sheltered individual who wanted to live alone his/her whole life? Obviously then things such as marriage and friends would no make this person happy at all!

First of all, I love how you connected Psychology to Say Yes to the Dress, as I never thought about Psych when watching the show. I agree she is very happy, as most brides are when picking out their dresses. The irony in this particular clip, though, is the bride is in a relationship that yields a lot of wealth. Most brides go on the show and have a specified budget (usually $2,000-$5,000) while this bride, because of her fiance's wealth has an unlimited budget. I agree with you that the variables of happiness are in that relationship (fitness, friendship) this may be an example of how copious amounts of money can make one happier?

I like your blog which is special and attractive. I agree that when choosing the partner, people are very careful and hesitated sometimes if they want a long and stable relationship. And I also think that happiness is one of the most important parts in relationship and marridge. Sometimes people marry to money, to position and other things and at the first time, they thought they are happy. But later on, they realize that the real happiness is not only those external factors.

I think this is a great post, I do like the relation to morals and how you connected the post to a TV that most women watch, especially those who are looking to get married or those who are into fashion. I also had a thought when reading this post, that sometimes women are all for the the romanticism until the wedding and then it later becomes all about making things glamorous.Sometimes the actual wedding is more exciting than the married life.

I definitely think that is a valid statement. I was really surprised by the video at first, but then I realized that it's really not that surprising. People marry for money all the time, and it quite possibly could be the case here. Normally when you see brides (especially on television) they just ooze love for their husband-to-be. How is it that people can trick themselves into marrying for money?

First off, I LOVE this show so I really enjoyed reading your blog post. It is nice to be able to connect outside life with school, and in this case a TV show with psychology class. The eight things that you listed above seem very accurate as far as happiness in a relationship goes. I really like the point that you made about exercise and happiness. I am probably the biggest advocate for the concept that exercise increases happiness within a persons life, and the relationships that they have. I also read somewhere that couples who exercise together have more and better sex!! No idea if this is actually true, but to me it would seem to make sense. Thanks for the post I really enjoyed reading it and commenting on a subject that I can really connect to!

I think it's hilarious that marriage is the top thing related to happiness. Not to seem like I have my mind in the gutter here, but science has pointed to sex having a huge impact on happiness and mood. To me, it makes sense because biologically our main purpose is to reproduce, so as an evolutionary trait, sex should make us happy. I could see that also playing a huge role in happiness alongside marriage.

I would also like to say that I love how you tied 'say yes to the dress' into psychology. I think that people are drawn to others who make them happy and who they are happy with. I am not sure that there is any one specific trait that people like the most in others because everyone is attracted to different traits.

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