Violent Cycles

Thousands of ordinary people are victims of abuse from people they love every day. Abusers can range in all ages and believe it or not can be anyone. A common stereotype that I have heard is that only men are abusers. This is a common misconception. Abusers can range from little kids to both men and women. Many people would think that one would leave the abuser or notify the authority about the abuse but many times this is not the case. People that are abusive tend to be very good at making a person feel like it was there fault. This kind of behavior is known as the borderline personality or the psychopathic personality. Many victims also have a sense of responsibility to try to fix the abuser. An example of this can be shown by a friend of who wants to spread his story of his past relationship with his girlfriend that lasted for fourteen months. He is a very nice guy but after he entered this relationship I noticed a change. He told me she manipulated him, punched him, and broke up his family in ways that were just terrible. I knew this was true because he showed me nail scratches on his chest and marks on his face. I tried to help him in every way I could but then I realized how hard he was trying to fix her and make it work. This girls horrible psychological disorders were taking over his life finally one day she reached a point where she was so insecure that she snapped and hit him in the face multiple times and since that day they have not talked. The point of this story is not to pinpoint women as abusive because anyone can be an abuser but rather to show how many personality and mood disorders cannot be treated without extensive help from a trained counselor, psychiatrist, or psychologist. He looked back on his relationships and regrets trying to fix something that was so cold and violent.