What Attachment Style Are You?

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Although I found many things intriguing this semester in psychology, the attachment theory and three styles of attachment appealed to me the most, and I know I'll refer to them in my relationships over the next few years. In lecture, we learned that people generally embody one of three attachment styles:

Secure-These people seek out comfort when distressed and they trust that others will be there to love and help them.
Avoidant- Avoidant personalities detach from others and often reject comfort when distressed. They tend to be what a large part of the population defines as "strong."
Anxious-Ambivalent-This personality type has a fear of abandonment, and they usually require a lot of attention. There is a fear that their needs will not be met.

The secure attachment pattern is most prevalent in society. However, I know many people with the two latter attachment styles. For me, I know I often become avoidant when forming new friendships. It's a defense mechanism for me; if I don't let myself trust someone, I'm preventing future hurt if the friendship ends badly. But with my family I am more secure, as I have never been burned by them.
Although I don't fit into the anxious-ambivalent attachment style, I know people who do fit into this. I have a close friend who became this way after going through a rough breakup. She doesn't have the anxious-ambivalent attachment style in our friendship, but with guys she doesn't know how to let them "chase" after her.

What attachment style are you, and why do you think you are this way?

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Im the same way when it comes to meeting new people or forming friendships. it is a defense mechanism for sure. As far as your question, "what attachment style am I"? well I am for sure Avoidant. I like to handle things on my own when they get stressful or are in my way. I dont like to recieve help or advice from people, id rather figure it out myself. Ive always been this way.

I am unsure of my attachment style. I am not shy, but I am not very outgoing either. I only trust close loved ones and can be wary of strangers. I like to handle things on my own and rarely ask for help unless I absolutely need it. I would say I'm somewhere in between avoidant and secure. I also thought about this when we learned this concept in lecture.

I am definitely avoidant as well. It mainly shows in my romantic relationships. While I know this may cause me trouble when i'm ready to date seriously, I find it a kind of blessing because it keeps by from jumping headfirst into bad relationships. I hope I will be able to open up when the right person comes along.

I am probably avoidant too. I am always hesitant when starting new relationships. Not that I have little or none. It just seems to take a little longer than others to become comfortable with the relationship.

This section provided me with good knowledge about how people can act when stressed, myself included. I think this is good knowledge to have myself and for other people when they become stressed. I think I would be avoidant and not talk to people about my stress and I like to think I'll figure it out myself. When others try and help I can get frustrated which is good for them to know and vice versa.

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