Making friends in America
As an international student, most of you are probably hoping to have many American friends and also friends who are from the other country.
Before I came to the United States, one of the biggest plan that I had was to have many American and international friends. I kept that plan for about a year after I came to the United States. But now, my plan had changed and is to be successful in academics.
Honestly, the reason for giving up the plan of making many international and American friends is due to adjustment in the United States. I tried to have many friends when I came to the Minnesota for the first time. I got to get along with some of the American friends, who met in the classes. But still, as I was not so confident enough with using English, I couldn’t make so many friends. In the second semester after coming to the Minnesota, I made more friends, as I started to adjust to the American culture.
But at the second semester, I had never got to hang around with friends that I met in the prior semester. The only thing that me and those people did was just saying hello to each other when we passed by. And that happened in the other semester, too. Although I have made new friends in the second semester, I never got to talk with them when the semester was over. Neither my friends nor I contacted to each other. The thing that we had in common was that we just knew each other.
However, what I actually realized was that this is the college live in the America. We get along for a while and we head for each other’s way after then. That’s what I have felt. Yeah, still, you can be a friends with them forever when you keep try to contact with them and hang around with them. But for me, I had things to do. I had my school work which did not let me to hang around with people. That made me unconcerned with making friends and taking care of the relationships.
So, do you think I will have no friends here?
Things didn’t turn out as so bad. I have many friends that I still keep in touch with although it had been a long time I have met them. And I am pretty sure that I will be contact with them even after going back to Korea. I don’t think it is right to struggle to make American friends. But still, as the time pass by and you start to adjust to American culture, you will get to meet people who will be your friends.