The ITLP Tuesday Readings included a "quote of the week" that neatly sums up the self-reflection that helps with improving your leadership style:
"Don't bother just to be better than your contemporaries or predecessors. Try to be better than yourself!" -William FaulknerIs your focus on improving self or others? Do you challenge yourself to grow? Do you push yourself out of your comfort zone? Do you have practices you do daily to establish new and better habits?
From time to time, I try to set aside some "i-time" (individual time) to reflect on my personal progress. I usually do this first thing in the morning, when I have some distance to the previous day's issues, and before my day really gets started. In this quiet time, I can usually gain some perspective on my personal progress, and think about how I want to further develop my leadership style.
For me, it's very helpful to do this in front of a whiteboard. I can jot down thoughts as they come to me, but erase notes and revise them as I think how to improve.
Try setting aside some "i-time" for yourself. If you make the effort to take "i-time" 2-3 times a week, for a month, you'll find it becomes a new habit.