Jyothy Chemmacheriljoby

Sometimes we are scared to take certain responsibilities. This is because we are not ready to trust our own abilities. We somehow believe that, we cannot do those kinds of responsibilities even if it is a small silly thing. This is because of the inferiority complex inside our mind. This is a big evil character that stops us from attaining any accomplishments. The reason for developing this kind of character can be either one or long-term incidents. Most of the time ‘comparison’, that hides behind in the list of reasons is the important one. Comparing one person with another one who has qualities that the first person doesn’t have is a serious problem that can create big issues sometimes. This forces them to think that they are good for nothing. So they believe that whatever thing they do, they cannot finish them successfully with perfections.

On the top of knowing everything, I used to lose my control over this evil behavior and ended up stressing out a lot. When I share my problems with my friend, he always advices me to look at those people who are worse than you. Never compare yourself with someone who is more efficient than you, because in some cases your inborn qualities cannot be altered and you cannot do things as easily as others do, which will irritate you. I think this point of him is right and is the only way to overcome inferiority complex. So if you want to be the winner of yourself you need to figure out certain thinking’s (just like this case) that can overcome every bad qualities of yours that stops you from attaining any heights in the life.

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Doing sacrifices for making your loved ones happy is a good thing. You can ignore so many things to keep up a relationship. Nobody is perfect. Everyone has their own defects. Realization of their own negative qualities helps them to not let others hurts by the wrong quality. Nobody can ignore something hurting which is really common in their daily life for long time. Well in that case, I think it is better to open up to the person from whom the hatred feeling comes. That helps your friend to understand you more. Moreover the key thing of keeping a healthy everlasting relationship is the ability to read the second person’s mind or heart. If you can accomplish this task, there won’t be any misunderstandings or problems between them. May be fights are possible, but on small issues which are really short living and it is good to have some small silly fights for strengthening the relation.

These qualities make you a winner in every kind of relationships. Nobody can hate you and will be interested to keep the relationship forever. With this mentality you can be a winner of yourself. You can always ignore the small irritating things of your friend if you really care about them. Ignorance, patience, understanding are the main qualities of a successful relationship. Help each other, do things which makes both of you happy.

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Accomplishing the love of everyone should be the greatest accomplishment in one’s life. But being nice to others by keeping negative feelings about them in the mind will not help. May be one can act until certain point of time. After the level has crossed, everyone just explode which create more complicated problems that cannot be solved or would not be able to solve easily. This is a true fact which I learned from my life experience. Just be the way you are. And express your own feelings and emotions. Keep away the show offs and behaves the way your heart says. People always appreciate the real YOU. Nobody can be an actor or an actress in their entire life. Once in life they have to show others “who are they.” Then people will be surprised seeing your real personality (which is different from his normal expressive nature).

Many people think that society will not accept them with their real personality. Being in this competitive world, people fight hard to their own souls to be a perfectionist. No one is perfect in this world, which is a key idea that people like to forget. It is always good to express the way you are, and is an appreciable thing. You will have achievements and can be happy (without any controversy between your soul and you) in the life. Because as people know you, they keep their expectations within your limits and capabilities. No confusion, no frustration. Whereas if you try to behave differently from your soul, it is not going to be a successful thing. This is similar to wearing a mask which makes others laugh and happy by hiding their own tears behind the mask. So I believe; be always the way you are, accept the way you are and success will follow us.

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Everyone can be happy in this world. The happiness depends on the view points of each individual. People generally think that one become happy only if they are being in a place or situation where they have everything they want. Their wants vary with the life situations. Some people need excess of money and some other expects peer groups for their enjoyment. My experiences teach me that this is a big misconception. Every situation has at least one thing to be considered in the positive way by a person. Just find out that thinking or thing to be happy wherever you are. Thus you can enjoy in the biggest boring party too.

Having all satisfying needs in one’s life is pretty difficult to achieve. Even if this task is accomplished that is not everlasting and moreover he/she cannot use the achievements fruitfully. After struggling so hard by giving up all enjoyable moments in life and finally if you are not able to find joy in your achievements then what is the point of all the struggles went through their life? I would say such a person’s life is a waste. He is a zero in his life when turns back and give a look into the past life. People who have enjoyed every second with whatever money they got are simultaneously struggling hard to maintain their way to goals, when these people turn back, they have a lot of memories to be remembered with their family and friends. Along with all these they have reached the same level of accomplishments as the opposite side-unhappy people. These people are heroes in their life whereas others remain as zeroes. So find something for making each seconds an enjoyable moment.

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You can achieve anything with your self-respect and self-confidence. Do whatever you want to do. Most of the time people ended up doing something which they do not want to do. This is because they give extra care for what others think of them and the things they do. If those people stop worrying about others they can explore the beauty of their life and enjoy every wonderful seconds. A smile is very simple but very important and very hard to accomplish. It has tremendous effects. You can change ones ‘mood’ with a pleasant smile. If you can make someone happy with your smile or presence that is something great of you. It helps you to get rid of your worthless feeling.

There are some characters in this world who never has any sorts of worries. They always seem to be happy the way they are, the way they do. They never let the things down them, whereas they keep on going in search of something which helps them to overcome worries. These kinds of people’s aim are to make others happy and optimistic always. And they achieve their goals most of the time with no difficulty but just with a smile. They never get tired even if they work for seven days in a week. And if we ask why they don’t, they reply with a smile that they don’t take their works as ‘works’ whereas they make every dizzy place a party one.

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Underestimating yourself is the worst thing you could ever do to yourself. This pathetic term just ruin people’s life. Most of the time when you start gaining things in your life by overcoming underestimation, you have lost more than what you are gaining. People actually do not want to underestimate themselves. But the situations force them to do it. I have encountered with this kind of cases several times in my lifetime. People get into negative view points when they are depressed about something. Students get depression because of the poor performance in the exam even after they work so hard. Professionals get depressed when they cannot be active in their profession. Couples get depression because of the unsuccessful relationship.

Depression is a medical problem and proved as a disaster. Depressed men take the way to wrong habits and give little care to their life. This attitude leads to the death of the people. All these movies, tv shows, books etc try to convey us this message that “how dangerous it is by becoming depressed and underestimate yourself.�? This is the best merit side of the commercials. They visualize the condition and explain its danger through our favorite people. So that children who do not listen to the advices of their parents automatically realize the fact about the after effects of doing something wrong. This is a good accomplishment of commercials.

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Everyone in this earth has atleast one capability which differ him/her from others. Nobody has born as a fool or a stupid. God’s creations never turn as a mistake. Everybody is good in their own special way. They can win the race of life if they realize their abilities which are the difficult part in most of the people’s life. Some finds their inborn characters and develop it and become famous. Others never realize them and regret about their idiotic life till the end. Through the music video of Hillary Duff (Fly; Raise your voice), she is trying to convey this message to her fans. Time is not changing you, you are changing time. You can make the world to wait for you. Just by listening to our heart what it says and the trust on our capabilities, we can achieve several things which thought not to be achieved by us.

The proverb “every fool has a day�? is absolutely right. The great Albert Einstein was a fool for a long time. If he was actually a fool how did he come up with the famous Einstein equation which is the key for the scientific development? When others realize his capability he is no more a fool. Every famous people have a stupid background where he/she is considered as nothing. But they ignore the discouraging words of people around them and believed themselves. That is what the song tells us hear your inner calling, trust your slogan and change yourself. You can shine like others which are something possible.

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