Reading everyone else's comments helped me think about the Valenzuela story. At first, i was thinking that the meaning of the wife being "good/decent" was that she was married and of a higher social class. Along the lines of something like, abuse /rape/beat the women of the lower classes to "protect" those of the higher class. It is the degradation of the lower class women that elevates the upper class women into beign "decent" because you can't have "good" women without "bad" women.
I read a Valenzuela book last year in which a younger sister watched her beautiful dead sister be raped by the mortician who came to tend her body. Seems like a common theme? I don't know if that relates but it might.
And what exactly is it about the women not reporting having been raped taht is disturbing to this husband? "Nothing could stop teh wave of patriotic indignation that made him breathe heavily as he turned the pages." The FR is the Argentine branch of the URU, which is based in Iowa and has headquarters all over the US. Is this supposed to be like the US raping Argentina, or bringing this business/capitalism/violence there? What is the significance that the organization is based in the US? I'm sure its something.
And what is this getting at? "Poor darling, and all for her, so she could go safely to the market, so she wouldn't be afraid if a stranger followed her at night when SHE went to get HIM cigarettes or the evening paper. In a city as dangerous as this she could go her way without worry becuase he was looking after her and protesting when things went wrong." It is as if the wife KNOWs she will never be raped. Like if she or her husband pay these people, they will not rape her. Does that mean they will rape anyone who does NOT pay them?
"...No girl, a minor, had to go to a psychiatric clinic to recover from a man's exposing himself to her. Nothing. Aren't you ashamed?" They do this to children and minors?
Is it implying that women are accepting rape passively and not reporting? What good does reporting do them anyway? probably not much, and then there is probably stigma and repercusions for telling. but what about the fighting back then?
ok, so there are no real ladies left becuase they either: fight back or don't tell. so what would his wife, teh real lady do? what is the other option? to be raped and tell?
There are terrorists to whom they may fall at mercy of. Are they raping their own women so the terrorists will have one less tool of war?
About the Yue article, I really liked it. i think what she was saying when she says "power is erotic. In same-sex relationships. In cross-cultural relationships." is that in heterosexual relationships, it has become more norm to try to entangle the power relations that exist between men and women. I thihnk power is also erotic for many in heterosexual realtionships as well. But I think she is getting at that we haven't thought about cross cultural relationships in the same way. there are power dynamics at play in all relationships, including cross cultural ones, and that in same sex relationships we often feel more equlity and less power struggle (at least I have felt more equality in my same sex relationships, I know that). But when you enter into a same sex realtionship with someone of a different race, more power dynamics come into play. i hope that made sense.
I liked how she included an african women in her group of ethnic toygirl (" celebrating the fashionably acceptable black lesbian as a virtue of the ethnic toygirl"). I think a lot of foreign women experince these same feelings here in the us, even though she is writing from australia, with their own spin on it of course.
I think its also really interesting in the last two paragraphs. I interpret it as her feeling used, like a plaything someone wanted to experiment with, when living doll breaks it off with her. She is transported to a place where fans scream, " We Want All You Can Eat". I think ithis is illustrative of feeling like everyone wants some, but only as a play thing and to play, not for anything serious. They want some tonight but They don't want it for dinner every night. thats a shitty feeling.
I liked the Wittig article and when she said that matriarchy is no less heterosexual than patriarchy; it is only the sex of teh oppressor that changes. This reminds me of a great book called Egalia's Daughters that i read when i was in high school and first coming into feminism that really opened my eyes about how oppressed women are. It is a story about a society in which women hold all power over men, who are abused physically, emotionally, financially and sexually. For me at the time, i was so used to the abuses of women that i found it hard to see them in everydaylife sometimes. But when you flip the script, and see the exact same thing happening to boys in a story, it seems so shocking and rality invoking. So i would recommend it, its fiction, ya know. easy yet intellectually stimulating at the same time. Nice how that is possible.