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February 26, 2007

To wear Hibjab, or to not wear Hijab...

This video me think...
* of my Christian friend who lives in Pakistan and has to lie about her religion everytime she leaves her house and all her problems with her father that she has had
* uh, I wonder why a man is speaking about a Muslim woman's choice, "you know what I am saying?"
* I do like the whole idea behind the Hijab - a person looks at another based on their mind or personality versus their outward appearance. I also like the arguement that there is a double-standard: Nuns vs. Woman who wear Hijab - why is the later viewed as oppresson?
* of all the ways religious practices, rituals, customs, and strongly suggested rules are oppressive of woman
* that people are relgiious when it is convenient...it is so funny!
* think of all the American feminists, documentaries, and the US media, that feature Arab woman as oppressed and Islam as a negative relgion

This video makes me...
* laugh at the small truths in this video: I have totally witnessed women who choose to wear their Hijab inappropriately or incorrectly.
* wonder what I would do if I lived in a household or country that required or strongly suggested that I wear a Hijab
* agree with the author of this video - there is a difference between culture and religion and I hate that most people confuse one with another or insist that both go together
* ponder on whether or not Islam is oppressive of women, or Christianity for that matter
* consider the difference between culture and religion and it's affect it has on American feminists - viewing Islam as oppressive or Muslim woman as oppressed, maybe it is just a different culture? or maybe we should not judge...we have our own oppressive vices here in America, who are we to say another culture is wrong? But what if it is oppressive...? I am really at a crossroads here. I was raised experiencing four religions: Christian (me), Muslim (dad's side), Jewish (godparents, best friends, community, etc...) and Hindu (mom's side). Which is right? Are they all going in the same direction?

Ugly Betty

This video me think...
* that America is so beautiful! she is such a darling! I think that is is so refreshing to see a young Latina in the spotlight
* where are all the Indian or Arab women in Hollywood?
* of all the systems of privilege built into instituions like The Academy, where only people who have won an Oscar for that category can vote for their peers - so, no wonder there are barely any Oscars that have been given out to People of Color...the ratio of White people of POC are quite slim
* excited that Hollywood is taking notice of a new demographic - the minorities aren't so small anymore! More and more People of Color are making a big difference in the media trends and that is awesome

This video makes me...
* so proud of America Ferrera - I cannot imagine how hard it is to be known for portraying a "ugly, fat" character and to know what Hollywood and her audience must think of her in the background of their minds...She must have amazing mentors and a strong mother to keep her self-confidence and esteem up
* so glad that another Woman of Color of breaking through to the mainstream Hollywood media
* excited to see what the new generation of Woman of Color will do to impact and affect the media and the world
* grateful for my mentors that keep me grounded but hopeful in my passion for social justice

Listen

This video makes me think...
* of all the times men in my life told me what to do and what to think and how to do things
* that sometimes I really do feel all alone and that no one will listen to me, and if I do speak, I can't help but be passionate and emotional about it which is not okay to the men in my life and that frustrates me
* that my daughter will not have this problem - I will make sure of it
* that sometimes I am helpless and can't say what is on my mind because of internalized oppression and I hate it!
* the reason I identify with this song so much is that sometimes I really am not at home in my own home. I come home thinking I am safe and put my defenses down, but no, have to keep those walls always up - you never know where the comment, "Man up!" or "stop being so emotional - it makes you weak!" comes from. It just kills me inside that my own brothers - the three men in my life who I love the most and really look up to would say something like that to me.
* Why is emotion so bad? It is just another level of communicating with someone...I don't get why it is disgraceful
* my crossroads are: 1) either close myself off to the comments and just keep silent, because that is a woman's place or 2) share my emotions, thoughts, opinions and be labeled a 'femi-nazi' or a 'lesbian.' Because, after all, what am I fighting for? Women can vote! The war is over...I am 'fighting for nothing.'

Listen I am alone at a crossroads I'm not at home in my own home And I've tried and tried To say whats on my mind
There was someone here inside Someone I thought had died So long ago Oh I'm screaming out And my dreams will be heard They will not be pushed Aside or turned

This video makes me...
* cry with regret that I had to fight so hard to gain control of my life
* bitter because I am not in total control of it
* sad that the men in my life, some of who I love deeply still don't understand, respect or listen to me
* hopeful that maybe one day I will find my own voice...my own complete voice...one that is all mine
* conscious of all the work I have to do to get over my bitterness and to use my experience to continue to grow and improve myself
* simultaneously tired with having to fight every battle because of my two strikes, (being a woman, and being a Woman of Color) and passionate to continue the fight - because I have to do it for my sister, my daughter, my future generations.
* wonder what it would be like if I didn't have to go through my experiences? what would I be like? my experiences cause me to grow, but the journey, it is so painful and heartbreaking. It would be nice to have the choice to step back from the war every once-in-a-while...

But now I got to find my own - my own

February 16, 2007

Be A Mindsticker...

This video makes me think...
- If I am to be a “mindsticker� I have to have a shape he can’t forget
- That guy is so creepy! Like a stalker he watches her from afar
- A perfect shape is like an tab bottle. Hmmm..I can drink sugar-free, great tasting cola and use the bottle as a measurement for how my body should look. After all, when he is away I want him only to be thinking of me. Bullshit.
- That woman isn’t really playing tennis, she is just walking around looking pretty in her really short tennis dress…

This video makes me...
- almost glad I didn't grow up then, granted, it was a simplier time...but still...
- wonder why it is her fault if he cheats on her. If she didn't have the perfect shape is it okay for his mind to wander?
- tired of sexism
- annoyed with how advertisements like this are still visible today in our media, just a little more subtle, but still there.

Kanye's Workout Plan...

This video makes me think...
- Kanye sings about the hypocrisy of gold diggers, but I wonder what kind of women are flocking around him night and day
- Why is that a fat, old, ugly man can have all the beautiful women, as long as he is rich and famous, but the double standard dictates that old, bigger, and not so pretty women definitely does not get to roll around with beautiful men – even if she is rich, there she is still not has “cool� compared to a man.
- Who wants to be a video girl? How do you get in a position that you are willing to sell your body to be the woman of the day for a rapper or actor's entourage...it's demeaning
- I understand what Kanye is trying to say about trophy wives, but I want to know where the hell are his songs and videos are pointing out the hypocrisy of men. What now, Kanye?
- I think that this song trivializes everything that women go through: For example, trying to support a child, a family, fighting for self confidence, going against the media and the negative body images they present and competition against other women which is in no way productive to anyone.

This video makes me...
- laugh. The whole process of making yourself grade A 'le boeff" (name of Parisian girl in the video, which means "the beef") is down-right ridiculous
- annoyed at the double standard for men and women, especially as portrayed in the media
- wonder why Kanye's videos and songs such as 'gold digger' and 'workout plan' address issues in a way that targets women in such a negative light but never men. How is it always a woman's fault
- annoyed at Kanye

A Girl Like Me...

This video makes me think...
- that we still have a long way to go in erasing racism from our society
- i cannot believe that the studies still had the same results as years ago - it's just sad!
- that this world is really a sad one, all the internalized oppression that is still going on today is horrible
- the media as a lot to do with oppressing and helping people internalize oppression

This video makes me...
- feel the pain of years of internalized racism
- cry when the young beautiful girl was conflicted about which doll looks like her or which one she wants to associate herself with
- sigh with just being tired of social injustice and wanting racism to be over and done with
- wonder which doll I would have chosen

February 6, 2007

Kiss My Fat Ass!

This video makes me think...
- if a supermodel like Tyra Banks can find a way to still love herself after a million eyes critique her, than so can I
- hmmmm...Tyra is not fat, how is she plus-size?
- what's the deal with Top Model? All those girls are really kind of...perfect. What message is that show sending out to all the young impressionable girls out there?

This video makes me...
- cry
- grateful for strong women, especially women of color who rock
- wish my little sister didn't have to put up with a double standard every where she looks
- annoyed with the media, Hollywood, celebrities, men and women who don't use their resources and influence to make the world a better place. Instead the media creates a model that no one can fit or should be able to fit, while Hollywood is just in it for the money, so many celebrities become as superficial as their characters, and a lot of men and women don't fight the system - they just perpetuate stereotypes, internalize oppression, and continue pass on sexism to our future generations. GRRRrrrrr.....

Feminst = Nazi. Ha!

Here are 30 similarities between feminism and 'early' Nazism. They are 100% true. True story.

Feminism and Nazism have both ...

1. discriminated against individuals on the basis of their genetic code.

2. promoted the view that the targeted group was inferior genetically and behaviourally, e.g. see AH's Men Bear a Striking Resemblance to Slugs.

3. promoted propaganda that led to the targeted group being labeled as 'parasites', e.g. see AH's Steven Jones - A Parasite?

4. promoted propaganda that led to the targeted group being constantly ridiculed e.g. see Incredible Shrinking Y by Maureen Dowd

5. promoted propaganda that led to the targeted group being laughed at even when mutilated e.g. Bobbit jokes.

6. demonised the target group by labeling them as perverts and sexual criminals, e.g. see Put Up or Shut Up by Wendy McElroy

7. sought to break the target group away from their families e.g. see The Federal Bureau of Marriage? by Professor Stephen Baskerville.

8. promoted the view that the targeted group was responsible for most of the major ills in society.

9. disseminated lies and disinformation about the targeted group in order to further promote their own ideology, e.g. see Msinformation by Professor Christina Hoff Sommers.

10. disseminated lies and disinformation about historical matters, e.g. see AH's Did Women Really Want To Go Out To Work?

11. used intimidation, threats and coercion to prevent their opponents from speaking out e.g. see AH's Feminists are nasty things.

12. promoted the lie that the privileged group consisted of innocent 'victims' of the targeted group e.g. "women have been oppressed throughout history."

13. demanded special privileges in the workplace for members of the privileged group e.g. preferential job placements for women.

14. discriminated against the targeted group in educational matters and in the workplace e.g. see AH's Well Done the Girls?

15. perverted the justice system so that members of the targeted group...

were easily discriminated against in the law e.g. in family courts.

16. arranged matters so that accusers from the privileged group could be shielded by anonymity in the courtroom e.g. in sex-assault cases.

17. arranged matters so that defendants from the targeted group had to 'prove' their innocence e.g. in sex-assault and domestic violence cases.

18. arranged matters so that members of the privileged group could capriciously define what, legally, was to be deemed 'a crime', e.g. where nowadays the 'feelings' of women rather than the behaviours of men are the determinants of what constitutes 'a crime' e.g. see The Real Goal Of Feminism by Antonia Feitz - 18 min.

19. arranged matters so that members of the privileged group could capriciously define how the law was to view certain matters e.g. a fetus inside a woman can now be deemed by her - at her whim - to be a worthless piece of tissue or a prospective baby - with all the ramifications of this - regardless of how the father might feel about it all e.g. see AH's Rant Against the Child Support Agency. (Also sexual harassment etc.)

20. arranged matters so that the law punished members of the targeted group more severely than members of the privileged group for the very same crime e.g. in domestic violence and murder cases.

21. arranged matters so that members of the targeted group were made responsible for the choices and behaviours of members of the privileged group e.g. in paternity fraud cases where duped fathers still have to pay child support.

22. arranged matters so that members of the privileged group who harmed, or even murdered, members of the targeted group were shown undue leniency - and were often actually applauded for their actions, e.g. see Killer given domestic violence award and AH's Loose Women.

23. arranged matters so that the law punished members of the targeted group severely for even trivial offences - e.g. domestic violence, sexual harassment.

24. arranged matters so that members of the privileged group earned a right to the property of members of the targeted group for no other reason than that they were members of the privileged group e.g. alimony, child custody.

25. arranged matters so that certain speech or attitudes directed against the privileged group were criminalised e.g. biased 'hate speech' laws.

26. demanded subservience to the prevailing ideology and to the government.

27. effectively controlled the mainstream media and the academic institutions and arranged for them to present a dishonest and dishonourable point of view in support of their ideology.

28. consistently highlighted and exaggerated the achievements and the suffering of the privileged group while downplaying the achievements and the suffering of the targeted group e.g. see Human Rights are not for Men by Melanie Phillips.

29. ran government-funded educational courses in universities (e.g. Women's Studies, Title IX) and in schools to promote the privileged group at the expense of the targeted group.

30. persisted in a long term campaign of hatred toward the targeted group, e.g. "Women need men like a fish needs a bicycle." "Men think about sex every 15 seconds." etc. Also see AH's Permanent Menstrual Tension.
Bar the heavy violence and the gas chambers - which came towards the end of the Nazis hold on power - feminism and early Nazism are surely very similar indeed!

****"30 Similarities Between Feminism and 'Early' Nazism." Anti-Feminist. 6 Feb. 2007 . ****

Okay, this article keeps saying that women are the privileged group and that men are the targeted group - in what world do these writers live in? Maybe in a world where women make up a majority of administration, where females were presidents, where there are more female CEOs, where more women make rules and laws that everyone else has to abide by, where those laws are made to benefit the makers, where the power system revolves around the protection of that power unlawfully gained and unjustly kept, where one lives in a socially injust world....oh, wait,...that's the world we live in today! The so called "man's world," where behind every woman - is a man looking at her ass or some other sexist comment like that.

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You might be a FemiNazi!

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You might be a Feminazi if . . .
- You think all males have it "easier" than females
- You're a proponent of Selective Service
- You feel that husbands should "obey" their wives in opposite-sex marriages
- You assume that all men are pigs
- You think your sexual purpose on this Earth is to make men cum
- Your idea of a fair divorce settlement is an ex-husband waivering a majority of his income to his ex-wife, despite which ex-spouse earns more
- You think women should rule the world
- You assert that women hold "superior" intuition and judgement compared to men
- Kicking males in the nuts (or seeing males get kicked in the nuts) gives you recreational thrills
- You believe that young boys should be arbitrarily held back one year later than young girls for entering Kindergarten
- You think all males should be locked up or shipped off to an island during puberty, adolescence, and/or early post-adulthood
- Sperm production is the prime purpose for which you feel males serve
- You assume that gay men are "pathetic weaklings who don't have the balls to confront their feelings for women"
- The ideal scenario to you in any opposite-sex marriage is when the female spouse is "the head of the house"
- You have no sympathy for males' medical burdens (i.e., erectile disfunctions, colon cancer, prostate cancer, severe acne, vasectomies, penile infections/complications, teen/adult circumcisions)
- You argue with men just for the sake of arguing with men
- You want the 19th Amendment to be amended to stipulate that all male voters must take "intelligence tests" before being eligible to vote
- You think Homer Simpson is an accurate representation of the average American male
- You view men as dogs who need to be "trained" to heed every command of members of the female gender

**** "You Might Be a FemiNazi If..." Glad to Be a Guy. 6 Feb. 2007
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This article is so ridiculous and

I highly doubt any feminist actually wants any of these alleged beliefs. People are just so stupid and ignorant! I don't assume that all men are pigs, I don't think that there needs to be a "head of the house," I don't assume that gay men are "pathetic for not confronting their feelings for women," and I absolutely do not view men as dogs. This article was written to be taken seriously by some poor delusional person and I pity him/her.
I honestly don't understand how people can just slap feminist under an umbrella term like feminazi andd say that we all hate men and view men as dogs animals...oh, le sigh. People (anti-feminists that label themselves as pro-men are so radically protesting radicalism that it's rather contradicting and just plain ignorant.
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We have come a long way...or have we?

This ad says to me:
- Look at these women parading around as objects!
- Intelligent women = ugly, fat, unfashionable, non-pleasing
- Not much has changed
- Women journalist work in a special women's department -specializing in meal-planning suggestions, recipies, etc..,
- Women don't have stamina, perserverence, courage, a "fast-brain,"
- Women must be married to have children
- Women are always at your service

This ad makes me...
- frustrated at the willing actresses that participated in objectifying themselves
- disgusted with society
- glad I wasn't born then
- wonder where these video clips were shown
- ask myself what I would have said/done if I lived during those times
- wonder what the hell those woman are singing about in the end; I mean come on! They are packaged in a box like they are a toaster or something. Open a box and find a perfect mail-order house maid who knows what you want, isn't afraid to service...er...serve you just how you demand, and never inconveniences you by being late?

February 5, 2007

Women, know your place!

This ad says to me:
- Women aren't as smart as men
- Don't speak when men are talking
- Your place is obviously beneath the alpha male

This ad makes me...
- feel annoyed
- makes me laugh at how ridiculous it is
- groan in disgust that people probably believed that weak diagram of how men soak up information and women are impenetrable...ha...I'll bet they were after they were shown that movie.
- sad, because I know many women who are told to, "know your place!"

Not sure when this video was made, the first time I saw it I was pissed, but after watching it five times I feel rather angry with the woman who in the end talks about liking bunnies or kittens or some shit like that.