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by Donna Bennett
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February 2010 Archives

Uniquely You

The following quote by Martha Graham is a beautiful testimony to embracing your uniqueness:

There is a vitality, a life force, an energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all of time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and it will be lost. The world will not have it. It is not your business to determine how good it is nor how valuable nor how it compares with other expressions. It is your business to keep it yours clearly and directly, to keep the channel open.

Martha Graham, quoted by Agnes DeMille, Martha: The Life and Work of Martha Graham

What is your expression of uniqueness? What is it about you that is like no other? Is this the time to go deep, to take stock, to take a close look at your gifts, your strengths?

The combination of all that you are makes you unique. There is not another person who is exactly like you. You need only to measure up to one person - and that is you.

When we come to a threshold and are conflicted about trying something new, the barrier that most often gets in our way is the perceived judgment of others. We may perceive correctly, but it is likely that most of our perceptions are based on thoughts we make up to keep us safe and secure in our "known" worlds. We begin to question our audacity to think we could move into an unknown place. We are likely to confront ourselves with questions and convictions that are sure to move us back to safety. It is a creative gesture learned over time until it becomes so familiar, it is difficult to stop and try a new direction.

One way to change direction away from old, unproductive patterns is to listen for the words that pop into your head. Are they focused on assumptions or on reality? Heighten your awareness. Be on the alert. Notice when your thoughts/words move you forward, and when they lead you away from your goals, desires, and/or purpose. Keep track of them in a journal. After a while you will see a pattern. What messages keep you from operating from your authentic self? Which ones help you step out in courage? This discovery can help you decide which messages to hold on to and which to weed out.

This is not an easy task and cannot be accomplished overnight. Old patterns don't want to let go! Their mission is to serve, but it is up to us to discern when to hang on and when to let go. You must be patient with your forward and backward movement for a while.

It can be to your great advantage to get support in this process. Consider partnering with someone who can help you gain momentum towards embracing the person that is uniquely you!