from the heart
back in high school, practically my entire wardrobe consisted of band shirts. the shirt above is probably one of five mxpx shirts i had collected from concerts. that was part of my concert going experience. watch the show, buy some merchandise. it was like the cake song, rock and roll lifestyle, "and how much did you pay for your rock'n'roll t-shirt, that proves you were there, that you heard of them first?"
i didn't buy this shirt because i thought girls were mean. i rarely talked to girls until my junior year of high school. i was too shy. so i had no basis as to whether they were mean or not. i bought this shirt because i thought it was cool that the girl was ripping the heart straight out the dude's chest. like it were some sort of screen shot from mortal kombat.
my friend ryan looked at the shirt with a different perspective. he has a way of taking something that makes sense, and twisting it in a way so it still makes sense but in a ridiculous sort of way. whenever i wore this shirt, he'd say, "listen to your heart." he made it seem like the girl was doing the boy a favor by listening to his heart.
now this ridiculous sense maker ryan is going to be a doctor. he just found out today that he's been accepted to the university of minnesota's medical school. he has also been accepted to a medical school in brooklyn, where he has spent a majority of the last 5 years of his life. and that's where the tough decision comes into play. here's how it played out on instant messenger:
ryan: i'm kind of torn, because i'm also in at a school in brooklynso being his friend, i felt like this is where i must say something to help him make a decision. thinking of all the times i have had with this kid, it came to me. i'll just regurgitate what he used to tell me.
ryan: and my whole life is pretty firmly .. in new york
ryan: so i'll miss it
ryan: but the U of M is really really really reallly good
me: listen to your heartbut i didn't stop there because that sounds too cheesy. and so i twisted it some more, because twisted sense makes perfect sense to ryan.
me: listen to your heart
me: that's what doctors do
me: with a stethascope
Comments
The effect of shyness to us is that we create ineffective communication towards other people. We just assume things because we are shy to ask or even talk to them.
Generally the effect of shyness is negative. But of course it depends to the person. The effect of shyness often leads to failure, lower self-esteem, self pity, and so on.
Knowing the effects of shyness will let us realize what we have lost because we are shy.
Posted by: effects of shyness | May 28, 2007 01:40 PM
Twisted way of delivering your message to your friend could be part of your interpersonal communication. That could be effective because you know each other's ways of communicating.
Sometimes, to deliver what we intend to but we don't know how to, we do it in a way that is indirect. But that indirect way hits them directly.
Interpersonal communication can sometimes go informal but effective depending on who are you communicating to. In communication, it is sometimes the way you deliver the message that matters.
Posted by: Interpersonal Communication | June 20, 2007 01:57 PM
Its with his conversation skills also that he does it that way. Its the one effective for him that even you are used to it.
There are different conversation skills that one can use. People will also get used to your style that it becomes effective. Like if you are shy on conversations, they would be the one to initiate one and open a subject.
Posted by: Conversation Skills | September 12, 2007 05:29 PM
Your friend has a more positive perspective over the shirt. Its actually just the way you interpret it. But of course, the positive tone is more preferable.
The Sedona Method is a great way to help you release the negative feelings, emotions, and the likes that would lead you to be a more positive person.
Posted by: sedona method | April 9, 2008 12:03 PM