Three important priciples in building a relationship.

I'm confident that the topic that I will talk about in this blog post not only will be remembered after five years, but also will have been continuously reminded during five years. As many sexually active, unmarried men and women look for their soul mates, I will become 28 years old 5 years from now and be actively looking for a partner, with whom I will spend rest of my life. Therefore, building a good relationship will be my primary interest. Professor Simpson talked about relationship and attraction between man and woman, and focused on three essential components to build a new relationship. One of the first elements was "proximity"; physical nearness is important for new relationship formation. In other words, if I'm interested in a woman, I should try to get around her so that I can face her frequently. Second element was "similarity"; having similar interests is important to attract people. This makes sense because people are often attracted each other when they have similar interests and they would feel resemblance between them. Also, having similar interests would give them more topics to talk about. Third element is "reciprocity", which means rule of give and take. Even though reciprocity is not completely required for making a relationship, it is important to build deeper relationship. Reciprocity includes not only physical substances such as presents, but also personal information. Sharing and disclosing personal information or stories often brings about intimacy. I will never forget these three important principles. I will always try to be near to someone whom I like and learn about what she likes. Once, when the relationship is formed, I will talk about my personal stories as well as listen to her stories so that we can build deeper relationship.