Twilight--a movie and book series that everyone knows about, but not everyone likes. It is a love story between a human, Bella and a vampire, Edward. According to Ellen Berscheid there are three major principles in attraction and relationship formation. 
The relationship between Edward and Bella worked well because of proximity. They never left each others side, thus having a huge success in their love story because of proximity. Everywhere Bella went, Edward would follow. He thought he was being "protective" but really it was because of the strong chemistry he felt toward Bella and had to be close to her. The relationship also had a lot of reciprocity between the two. Bella and Edward equally gave and take from the relationship to fuel their love, even though Bella, annoyingly, always made a point to suggest that Edward gave so much more to her and that she could never give him enough. When it came to similarity, however, the two should have crashed and burned. They had something extremely different between each other at first--Edward being a vampire and Bella being human. Although because Bella constantly asked Edward to change her and because she really had no personality, like Edward, they were more closely matched than I had originally thought. All in all, Edward and Bella, however annoying their relationship had been, was bound for success because they had met the three principles of a relationship to a T. 
Twilight: Of Course a Successful Love Story
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I like how this correlates the three principles to a well-known relationship. Edward and Bella definitely have the proximity and reciprocity factors, because they do everything together and feel the need to constantly satisfy each other's needs. It makes me wonder that since they lack in similarity (different species almost) if that principle is less valuable to relationships, opposites attract right? Or perhaps for a relationship to be successful, it only needs two of the three to thrive.
Did they have similar beliefs or other shared attributes? They appear to look alike... Links to further reading on attraction?
I find this very interesting. Even having read the books, this blog makes me wonder whether, in the story written for them, if what was provided in the plot for them to meet and fall in love was really enough. By that I mean, isn't at least some amount of similarity important for creating that initial connection with another person? Regardless of their proximity and reciprocity I think that without some baseline similarities, their relationship wouldn't work in the real world. They'd have nothing to talk about!
Their relationship is just unreal. Who with the right mind would think like Bella? Would you fall in love chewbaca? NO!
I think it is possible to only have two out of the three principles in attraction. Later on they found that they shared similar interests like music and values such as family. Similarity may not have been there right away, but it did come eventually as they were building their relationship. Edward and Bella may not be the perfect couple but they do have the three principles on their side!
I like how you describe how their relationship should have "crashed and burned." Even though these two weren't very similar, I think that the proximity between the two and the reciprocity would be enough to outweigh the fact that Edward was a vampire and Bella was a human. But I may be wrong considering how much similarity contributes to attraction. Some may argue that similarity is the largest factor of the three when contemplating love.