November 10, 2005

Dysfunctional Roles (Chapter 3)

Oh my God. I am by far the biggest Pleaser ever. I don’t like to argument and I don’t like to see people disappointed. It makes me sad so I try to please everyone. It can be very stressful though. Every time I turn around, I hear that I let everyone walk all over me. It’s tough when you don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. I’ve a lot better at not trying to please so much. I don’t even know if I was trying to please people or if it was just what came naturally. As I look back over the years, I can think of many times that I was a trying to please someone and things got thrown in my face. I think that it made me look easy to get over on and made me seem like I couldn’t make my own decision. Working in a team, I have learned that it is important not to always try to please everyone because it doesn’t get you anywhere. By the time you try to do what everyone wants, you will probably be back at step one – not knowing what you want as an outcome.

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