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November 21, 2005
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Do you feel personal change comes with maturity or is derived from our own conscious decisions?
-Brian, Nate
Posted by at November 21, 2005 10:53 AM | Empress of the World
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as far as the question goes...
I think it comes from both. When you mature, the change causes the naiveness to dissipate and change into a new personality. But it is us that decideds how this process goes under way. Wehn we see do and act upon different situations we add to this maturity level that twists the personality into something new, and possibly scary. But the end result all fits together and then we realize the chain of events that have created us into what we are. Like Nic, she was very unsure of her sexuality, and it was scaring her a bit. But when she finally matured and realized her feelings, she understood where they came from.
Posted by: Brian Reed at November 21, 2005 1:10 PM
I think that personal change comes from both maturity and our own conscious decisions. I think that these two items are connected and that our conscious decisions make us more mature, while our maturity level guides what our conscious decisions will be. Thus, as we mature, we consiously make decisions to do so and then we will develop more as a person.
Posted by: Robin at November 22, 2005 11:15 AM
I am inclined to agree with both of you. Their is a symbiotic relationship between maturity and decision making. They develop and grow simultaneously. I enjoy the chain of events theory as a way to track or monitor our changes. I also wonder about the word conscious and its often confused counterpart- conscience. SOmetimes at an immature state, one can forego both and let nothing guide one's actions.
Posted by: Mary F. Wright at November 22, 2005 2:50 PM
I believe that personal change comes from both maturity and conscious decision-making; however, outside factors are very important as well. We often change the most when we are thrown into new and different situations. Take Nic for example. She was in a new world at the summer program and met someone she fell in love with, who happened to be a girl. If she had stayed home would she necessarily have met someone that would make her have the summer she had? At that point, her decisions came into play. For that to occur though, there must first be new situations to deal with. Maturity could then be another factor, which would dictate what people would do. Ultimately, though, there need to be the three factors of maturity, decision-making, and new situations to perpetuate personal change. All three work together to formulate who we become. They are all intersecting, creating uniqueness in who we become as an end result of metamorphosis.
Posted by: Sandy at November 28, 2005 9:35 PM
That was hilarious, while mildly disturbing at the same time. Thank you.
I actually think maturity comes with our own conscious choices. I know a ton of people who have made decisions in their lives to not mature, which can be fun, but I do believe it also stunts their personal growth and changes. Our lives have meaning only insomuch as we assign it to them, if we choose not to, we can stay inside our own immature bubbles. It is when we step out of those places, make decisions that mature us, that we are able to go through personal change and growth.
Posted by: Randi at November 29, 2005 3:16 PM
I think that it comes from both maturity and personal decisions. With age you experience different things and that is why we make our decisions. We base our decisions off of our experiences. I think that with one comes the other. But on the other hand someone as young as 10 could have experienced more than a 15 year old because of things that they ran into in their lives. It all depends on our environment i think, where we live, who our parents are, what shcools we go to, what friends we have and so on. We all experience different things though because we come from different environments. We all come from different walks of life so all of us are going to be different and have different experiences.
Posted by: Kimberly at November 30, 2005 11:14 AM
I tend to lean toward the conscious decision to make a personal change because I think that, as Randi said, some people just choose not to mature and then stay that way, while others make the conscious decison to change and then which leads to personal growth. Then I am thinking that yes you have to make a concious decision to make a personal change, but what decisions are you equipped with when you are five or even ten? Not that you can't make a personal chang during this time, but I think that with maturity, not only in age, but in state of mind, comes with it a whole new set of personal decisons. So, I guess I take back what I said earlier, and feel that personal change is complete only with the maturity and conscious decisions of the individual.
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