Coach-Parent Partnership

I feel that everyone who has ever participated in, coached, or have been a supporter of an athlete in sport has seen "that parent." They are the one who are constantly yelling at the referees, coaches, and the players for anything that they disagree with. From personal experience it frustrating when you have a parent on the team acting as a second coach on the sidelines. It embarrasses the child of that parent and causes a distraction from the game.

The AAHPERD parenting guide for sports addressed a lot of the negative issues that is seen of parents while at their child's sporting event. One thing that I found interesting is that the guide suggests that a parent play only one role whether it is a coach, playing, an official, or a fan. A lot of parents try to be all four at a time yelling out orders or calling out rule violations from the sidelines. Though a lot of parent's intentions are good at heart they do not realize the embarrassing situation they are creating for their athlete. The parent guide gives suggestions to parents to help them give their athlete a better sporting experience such as helping their athlete keep realistic goals, see the big picture by promoting values in sport, and have a child centered philosophy. The FA Parent Guide video showed different aspects who are involved in youth sport and how being "that parent" affects everyone that is involved.

The video clips on the FA Parent Guide website are just a reminder of how sport can be negative in a child's life. It is sad to see it happening in real life you slowly see a child who started playing for the love of the game turn into a child who is just there playing physically and not mentally there enjoying the sport. The video that resonated with me the most on the FA's website was the videos with the child's point of view and how he felt when his dad acted the way he did. It is unfortunate to see this in real life because like the child in the video most kids do not know or want to tell their parents that they are making them miserable. In the video the coach of the child did a good job of positively encouraging his athletes every time that the dad yelled. It is hard as a coach to know what the boundaries are of telling a parent how to act during a game

In Anderson and Aberman (2006) they describe how a caring coach can quickly go from being an involved coach to an athlete's parental advisor or even more. In story the coach Warren walks a very fine line of being a trusting coach for his athlete Jenny and a barrier separating Jenny from her family. The key to the success Warren had with this situation was having someone as a sounding board, Donny. It is important for coaches to have their own support system as well as the athlete. Going into situations like this one alone could be a disaster. I have seen it at my high school where the coach-athlete relationship line gets blurred. This can lead to accusations that may or may not be true because of the amount of time spent with the athlete, especially alone time. All coaches can benefit from the coaching pyramid in Anderson and Aberman (2006) to remind them of what their role should be in their athlete's life. The role of the coach can also vary in an athlete's life depending on the age of the athlete. Coach Anderson in Anderson and Aberman (2006) described "M" cap that what put into place on his team. He acted like a parent in the respect that he was challenging his athletes to grown and learn what they needed to do to become responsible in all aspects of their life.

Sara Goral

References
-Anderson & Aberman (2006). Why Good Coaches Quit. Monterey, CA: Coaches Choice
-The FA Parent Guide. www.thefa.com/respectparentguide/.
-Through a Child's Eyes: Parents' Guide to Improving Youth Sports. http://www.sportsmanship.
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