September 10, 2005
I would rate myself the highest in the self-regulation portion of personal competence. I believe I am able to control my actions and emotions in the worst conditions. Because of this strength I am able to adapt to a variety of situations and environments. In addition, I am very open minded person so I am open to new ideas and information. My weaknesses primarily lie in the motivation section. I am not always ready to take opportunities by the hand and make them work for me. I see myself as too “laid back” type of person so I am not always willing to make things better than they could be. So my achievement drive is not at the point of where I’d like it to be or employers would like it to be.
On the social competence level I would rate myself high. I have been told many times that I am very empathetic by family, friends and co-workers. I am able to understand others’ feelings as ease give motivation to others when I see them struggling. I can also sense what others need in terms of work and personal life. In the social skills, the only major weakness I see on a regular basis is conflict management. I am too much of a people pleaser at times and this hinders my ability to resolve conflicts within groups.
Posted by at September 10, 2005 2:50 PM
Thank you for your self analysis of Goleman's emotional competencies. Many of your classmates struggle with the self regulation where you excel. We'll be learning a lot from you.
As a class, we'll be learning about strategies for motivation, and I hope you'll pay particular attention to the book we'll read later in the class entitled, Fish! Fish draw our attention to getting to the root of motivational issues, working on attitude, and helping to make work fun.
Conflict management and problem solving is a real sensitive issue. We'll devote several class periods to these issues and give your some strategies to help you in your professional and personal lives. Welcome to 3266!
Effective communication skills can help you with people. It can help you to talk with people effectively. In resolving conflicts, it is important that you have effective communication skills. It will help you understand each other's points better and be able to come into a resolution.
Being a people pleaser could be helpful in your social skills. Maybe you can use it to resolve conflicts. People could have developed trust in you and could therefore listen to you. It is a step to smoothen up conflicts.