Rwanda 1994, the photograph in the previous entry, is a chilling reminder of the personal nature of the genocide in Rwanda. How do Rwandans -- or any people who have been damaged in civil wars -- reconcile the fact that the mass murders, maiming, and destruction were committed by their neighbors?
In An Ordinary Man, Paul Rusesabigina wrote about the aftermath of genocide in his own life:
"But as Rwanda will always be with me, so too will the genocide. It is as much a part of me as the shade of my eyes or the names of my children; it is never far from my thoughts and I cannot talk for more than an hour with a fellow Rwandan before one or both of us will begin to tell a story or make reference to what happened during those three months of blood in 1994. It is the darkest bead on our national necklace, and one we must all wear, no matter how far we have traveled to get away. Killers still walk free in Rwanda and in the world, and through my mind. I remember one evening in Brussels, at a banquet after someone's wedding, when I saw a familiar face in the crowd. It was a man I hadn't seen in years, a Hutu neighbor of mine from the Kabeza neighborhood where my family and I had lived. I had seen him in the opening days of the genocide wearing an army uniform and carrying a machete. It seems likely that he participated in some murders or at a minimum did nothing to stop them. And here he was, free and healthy and wearing a business suit. There was nothing I could do about it, either. I stared into my drink. My wife wondered why I had suddenly gone quiet, but I could not tell her until we had gone home. I did not want to talk to this man. I never wanted to see him again, and so far I have not." p. 183
How does healing take place?
Rayika Omaar from the African Rights NGO tells us that because of the embeddedness of the crimes at all levels of Rwandan society, reconciliation "may take generations." In addition to criminal courts, the question of reconciliation is addressed in approximately 10,000
gacaca courts in Rwandan communities. For some Rwandans, healing may begin to occur in face to face interactions between perpetrators, victims, and families of victims.
As We Forgive Those: The Story of Rwanda's Redemption illustrates a church-based project in which perpetrators rebuild the houses of victims and their families.
What is necessary for reconciliation? Is forgiveness possible?