Troublemaking in Parenting
A friend of mine just sent me this short article - Transparent - on gender "play" and the experience of parenting a child who does not conform to gender stereotypes. I was interested in the article at first because my mom is a child psychiatrist who has advised parents in similar situations, but I'm posting it here because the author, Susan David Bernstein, uses terms like "troublemaking" and "play" (for those familiar with that chapter from Lugones) in ways that clearly resonate with this class.
I know we had a lot of reading this week, but I'm curious what people think about the article, and the idea of "playful parenting" as a form of troublemaking. On the one hand, Bernstein seems like a great parent, allowing her daughter to explore gender in the way that she does; on the other hand, she also implies that her daughter - being as strong-willed as she is - might've acted the same way, regardless of parenting. It's also clear that Bernstein is in a privileged position, being a white academic in Wisconsin; she talks about "today's multiplication of options" for gender performance, but she might not perceive there to be so many options if she was living somewhere else.
Anyone have experiences with parents who encouraged you to make trouble? As a child, was anyone a troublemaker because of or in spite of their parents?
Also, is there room for "playful parenting" in parts of the country (or in various communities of race, class, etc) where there might be more of a threat of backlash? What (perhaps subtler) forms would it take on?