Sarah Ahmed seems to use example of unhappy queers that are trying to fit the heteronormative standards. In If These Walls Could Talk, Fran and Val want to have a child. They feel the need to blend in with other mothers and families, and I think that sometimes they are more concerned on how something will appear to others in the outside world, rather than inside of themselves and each other. Then we watched that those It Gets Better videos with the 2 gay men and the one gay girl, and it really made me think how lucky I have it, because it could always be worse. The standards will always be the same, but I may not have been the person I am today if I didn't have the support of my friends and family. Would those standards appear more intense? Would I want to conform to those hetero standards more? It's amazing the influence people or society can have on an individual. I want to know who invented the standards of a perceived "normal" life. Why can't we live in a world without any standards on how to live an ideal happy life?