We all want to know how to find "the one." People constantly read magazines and books and advice columns that are supposed to help them with their love lives. But what if we were told that science can help us find true love? According to our psych book, it can!
Our book tells us that falling in love isn't a random act of fate. There are three stages behind attraction and relationship formation:
1. Proximity. In order for initial attraction to form, we need to be in proximity of that certain guy or girl. Studies have shown that the more times you see someone, the more you will be attracted to them, even if you don't interact with them. Our closeness to people is where we get the basis for our relationships.
2. Similarity. We look for things in other that our similar to us, in order to form a relationship. We are attracted to people who share similar interests, values, and qualities as us. These shared values help validate our opinions and make us feel good about ourselves!
3. Reciprocity. This means that we feel obligated to give what we get. When we believe people like us, we are more likely to feel attracted towards them. This causes us, in turn, to act more likable. Also, when someone shares something important with us, we are more likely to share something important with them.
So is that it? Nope, physical attraction also plays an important part in dating and attraction. We do judge people based on their appearance
. As our book says, physically attractive people tend to be more popular.