We've all seen it. That weird couple that makes you stop and think, "how the heck did you two end up together?"
What I didn't know before reading chapter 11 was that these couples were more of an exception than a rule, "opposites attract."
In fact, the 3 factors that influence our relationship formation are similarity, proximity, and reciprocity.
First off, we are simply attracted to those who are similar to us. You might think dating someone more different from you would be more interesting because you would a lot to talk or debate about.
In fact, commonalities are more important. With little in common, it's a lot harder to establish a personal connection.
Next, relationships are often based on convenience. That is, we become close to those who live, study, work, or play closest to us, since we see them on a regular basis.
Lastly, reciprocity (give and take) is crucial for a deeper relationship. We tend to feel obligated to give what we get and maintain balance in our relationships.
So next time you feel sparks fly when you spot a special someone, consider if these 3 factors influenced the connection.