I haven't decided yet if I want to post a picture of Derek, me and Dylan. I'm sort of torn. Derek knows that I'm writing this blog, and he sort of knows what I'm writing about, but I haven't actually sent him the link so he could read it himself.
I'm not sure why I feel this way about this...there are two things going on here: One, I want to respect Derek's privacy and not go splashing his picture everywhere, and two, I feel weird about him reading my blog for some reason. Everything I've written is pretty much public knowledge kind of stuff...no deep dark secrets or anything. But for some reason, revealing my writing to him is strange. It shouldn't be, really....I mean he knows everything about me. But for some reason, taking this blog from "psuedo-anonymity" to "hi Sweetie, this is what I've been writing about for three weeks" is difficult.
I thought about emailing him some individual posts and gauging his response that way. But then its not really my blog, just the stuff I think I want him to read and like.
So for now, the headless picture of Derek with Dylan on his graduation is all you're getting....I need to think about the group photo thing for a little while. As for revealing my blog to him, I'll keep you posted.
Posted by tsch0020 at June 6, 2005 05:19 PMJen,
weird that you posted this. as I was sitting at the bus stop, I was sort of wishing you would post a picture. I realized that I have a mental picture of what Derek looks like, and thought it was because your first post had a pic. Not so- I created the image out of things you have said about him. Brains are crazy. Anyway- I say YES.
the other jen
I'd say your reticence is a good thing. Publishing someone else's picture can be a big deal, especially on the Internet, where people can download it, manipulate it, etc. But more fundamentally, it's his picture (more precisely, it's an image of him, though you may own the picture) and he might want to have a say in how and if it's published. I usually err on the side of caution....
Posted by: Tim G. at June 7, 2005 02:07 PMyeah, people can be sometimes really touchy about what you post online that might even slightly involve them. And I know what you mean about having people read your blog. I am totally addicted to blogging but then I feel stupid if someone I know that doesn't normally blog reads it.
Posted by: Dawn at June 7, 2005 02:22 PMMaybe you could ask him. Since I am a photographer, I tend to be less wary of posting images on the internet. And, unless he's going to be a politician- or involved in some scandalous activity- I don't see why anyone would want to manipulate a photo of him to begin with.
Posted by: jen s. at June 7, 2005 04:48 PMI understand that you feel a bit shy or awkward for Derek to read your blog. Our skill of communication sometimes differ depending on the situation. When you interact with him, it's more of between-you-things. But in your blog, its everything that comes out of your mind. It's another side of you.
It's just ok for him to read it even if you feel awkward because it is like showing him some things which you are inclined to. This can make him know you better and deeper.
Posted by: Skill of Communication at July 19, 2007 02:59 PMHow about talk to him about this thing? If you are bothered by this, engage him in a conversation and tell him about this. Use your conversation skills and ask his opinion about this blog.
It sometimes feel awkward but I think you have to get used to it. Its better that you tell him about it than he find it out by himself. Open communication is what you should have in your relationship to make it stronger.
Posted by: Conversation Skills at October 3, 2007 05:44 PMHow about talk to him about this thing? If you are bothered by this, engage him in a conversation and tell him about this. Use your conversation skills and ask his opinion about this blog.
It sometimes feel awkward but I think you have to get used to it. Its better that you tell him about it than he find it out by himself. Open communication is what you should have in your relationship to make it stronger.
Posted by: Conversation Skills at October 3, 2007 05:45 PMYou seem to be a nice couple. Maybe you are not used to showing that side of yours to him. It sometimes happen to me. I get conscious when my boyfriend reads my blog. But then, I just let him because I don't find anything wrong with that.
But if you really don't want him to read what you've been writing, better not post it.:) Just a suggestion. But really, think positive about your relationship and about your boyfriend. Overcome that shyness of yours to him.
Posted by: sedona method at May 30, 2008 02:38 PM