The National Organization for Marriage is at the forefront in the fight against the right for same sex couples to join in civil unions or marriages and adopt children. Their primary argument is that marriage should be "about bringing together men and women so children can have mothers and fathers.1" The underlying message is that marriage is about raising children and same sex couples are unfit to do that. One of the most eloquent rebuttals to that assertion is given by Zach Wahls, a 19-year-old University of Iowa student who was raised by two mothers, in a testimony before the Iowa House of Representatives opposing a state constitutional amendment to define marriage as a union between a man and a woman:
Our book supports his claim, stating, "[H]omosexual and heterosexual adults don't differ in their approach to parenting and are equally likely to provide supportive environments for their children" (p. 440).
I think that the assertion that marriage should not be between two people of the same-sex because it hurts children is an extremely poor one. Not only is there a lack of evidence for that claim, but where does that line of thinking lead to? There is evidence that divorce hurts children, so do you ban divorce to help children? People with higher incomes can provide better for their children, so do you sterilize people with low incomes to help children? People with higher education levels have children who then are better educated, so do you sterilize people who don't get bachelor's degrees to help children? Just because you have a personal opinion on what a perfect family is and what is best for children doesn't mean that the government should try and force your opinion onto other people, especially when that opinion isn't backed with anything.
Moreover, not recognizing civil unions or marriages for same sex couples doesn't keep children from having same-sex parents. Marital status or sexual orientation cannot be used to keep a woman from using a sperm donor to have a child. It's against the law to discriminate against would be adopted parents because they are of the same sex. Furthermore, children who are adopted, especially from developing nations like many of them are, are always going to be better off growing up in the United States with two loving parents, even if they are of the same-sex, then in orphanages.