Our fathers have played a major role in our life whether they were present or not. Sometimes the most impact fathers play are the one who aren't present. I've grown up in an environment where my dad wasn't present so I created the idea of what a dad should be. The four statements of how a dad is, they tend to be less attentive and affectionate, they spend less time with their babies, they spend more time in physical play, and children tend to choose their fathers over their mothers as playmates. All of which I believe to be true though personally I don't understand. I also believe that this statement doesn't pertain to every father out there. The idea of the father figure makes sense but why does such emphasis play an important impact on children's' psychological well-being. With my parents separated I created the idea of what my dad was and blinded the thought that he wasn't the father I wanted him to be. Thoughts that he wasn't a good dad were pushed even when the evidence to say otherwise was in front of my face. I can't give a personal statement about fathers who are there in their child's life but I know that the role of the father shapes children's psychological well-being.
It seems to be that you were experiencing belief perseverance with your father. You tended to ignore the evidence that proved your initial thoughts and beliefs to be false. I agree with your ending statement in how the role of the father shapes the children's psychological well-being because I can't imagine growing up without my dad. I have a lot of respect for the kids who have to live without one of their parents. This was a very interesting post due to the different perspective you described about your father. Good job!
I was interested in your statements regarding your father- i respect the fact that you grew up without your dad being a large part of your life. My parents went through divorce and I did not get to see my Dad near as much as I would have liked. I think that both parents equally share the role of shaping their children. In my life, I am who I am as a result of both my mom and dad, even though my dad was not around as much.
I was really impressed with this post. I think that it is really cool that you were able to believe in your dad when all of his actions were telling you not to. I think that there is such a strong emphasis on having an active and leading father figure in your life because children are typically raised with a father and a mother, whom impact the child's life in different ways. However, I do believe that children who are raised without a father or a mother can develop healthily and completely normally. All in all, I really liked how you were able to relate something from the text to a personal experience of your own, which resulted in a very influential post.
I really enjoyed reading your blog post! It seems like a lot of people are not as open about more sensitive situations in their life, but reading this made me happy that you openly discussed the role of fathers. I was easily able to connect with your blog post because I share a similar situation with not having a father figure always around. Also, because of that, I think that many people can be raised and still be completely healthy. Overall, I liked the fact that you tied your personal experience with a psychological factor.
I appreciate you sharing this personal story. I think it is very interesting of how the father plays such a significant role in our lives. I can only imagine how hard it is to not have a father figure in your life to look up too. I had a really good friend whose parents got divorced when he was really young. They stayed with the mom and the dad gave little if no support. We were really good friends up until I moved away around 10th grade. After that, things really started to change. He was hanging out with the wrong people, not doing well in school, and getting in trouble a lot. Unfortunately I think this has a lot to do with not having a father figure in his life.