Forgive and forget ???
This week we learned about the Truth and Reconciliation Commission. While watching a documentary on this I began to think about why we use the saying "Forgive and forget." This saying makes the forgiving process seem easy when reality it is not. How can we as a society tell someone this when their family has been kidnapped, tortured, and murdered. They can never forget because it is part of their everyday life. I believe that the saying should be "Forgive and move on." This saying recognizes that forgiveness is important. It doesn't undermine one's experience. It acknowledges that a person cannot forget, but at the same time they cannot live in hatred, grief, and sorrow they have to move on. If someone has truly not forgiven they will never be able to move on. They will not be free from bondage until they have forgiven.