The time old question, "Do opposites attract?" currently plays a roll in my dating life, I assume most other people's as well. The type of guy I'm initially attracted is what society has coined "The Bad Boy". To define a "Bad Boy" I'll cue in this ABC News article for the best description this type of guy, The Bad Boy "...is a guy with such high self-esteem he could aptly be called a narcissist. The guy who wins women over with deceit, callousness and impulsive behavior."[Grayson]
After reading this fairly accurate definition of a "Bad Boy", you may question, "How could you be attracted to this type of guy?" It's only the initial attraction that draws me in. My best friend often uses a behavior theory to explain this phenomenon, she explains, "The reason why we surround ourselves with our polar opposites is that we admire the differences in personalities that they posses." I have to agree with her, because this theory rings some truth to my own relationships. I tend to be indecisive, a bit naïve, laid back, & reserved when it comes to dating. In contrast, I tend to seek out in my partner a decisive, outgoing and experienced type of guy with a bit of a wild side. According to my friend's theory, the traits that my potential partner posses also I secretly desirer to be.
Rivaling the behavior theory my friend came up with I found an alternative explanation, which refutes the "opposite attracts" quandary. According to the video I posed below, 760 people surveyed 85% said that they would most desire dating their opposite over someone similar to them. That means from this survey alone 646 people are dating are apt to date the wrong type of person.
Understanding that I'm not alone mistakenly dating Mr. Right Now comforts me a little. And I can't feel too bad that I haven't found my "Mr. Right" just yet. Realizing it's a mistake to date my polar opposite aka Mr. Right Now has helped me also recognize my own pitfalls when it comes to dating. Instead of dating "Bad Boys" it appears as though I should be dating someone who is mostly like me a laid back & a plays it safe kind of guy. The only problem is, will I ever meet a guy like this?
Grayson, Audrey. "Why Nice Guys Finish Last." ABC News. ABC News Network, 19 June 2008. Web. 04 Apr. 2012.