"Marriage for the most part appears to be a series of mostly comfortable silences punctuated by joy, despair, and sudden dialogues that serve to calibrate the relationship, bring it up to speed, reassure and inform, after which we lapse back into our own quiet worlds" (Daniel Wallace, in the short story "A Terrible Thing"). Hhhmmm...
Posted by wrjacobs at September 3, 2007 9:38 AM
I think this is more true of introspective and/or reflective couples who are probably more prone to nonverbal forms of communication (including subtle gestures, glances, etc). If one or both members of the marriage are more on auto pilot, just living in the moment without thought about the significance of these moments, and are more amenable to verbal and direct forms of communicating, then I would say this description of marriage would not hold.
Posted by: Sle at September 3, 2007 12:33 PM