Who is Grace Lee?
Grace Lee uses her road trip to acknowledge the similiarities about many of the Grace Lee's but also to highlight their differences. She "didn't want to be interchangable". She first saught for proof that they weren't "super nice asians". She felt left out, as if she wasn't in this "sorority of super asians" but along the way she came to realize just how different the Grace Lees were. Though there were some common threads, each of them was an individual. Many of them had lived and grown up under this oppresive steriotype of perfection and even though it led some of them to stress (even one to burning up part of the school). Most of them realized the importance of developing their own identitiy outside of their Grace Lee construct. She realizes on her trip that they are all individuals, whether it is the Grace Lee Activist, Grace Lee Dark Art Specialist, or even the Grace Lee Pastor's wife. Though they maintain some of their "Grace Lee Characteristics" they have learned to be more than that. Llike Gollum they are "like two characters in one."
While these women have common experiences- even sharing an average of 3.5 yrs of piano lessons- they are each different. They are not stepford wives, they are strong women with backbones and this alliviates her fears. She brings back a sense of community and a real feeling that she should be happy to be amongst these Grace Lees. She has reestablished her sense of self.